Obsessed with planning?

AliMarieABC · July 2012

OK, so I'm not a snarky bride. But I am WAY over excited about getting married.

The wedding is more than a year away, and I only got engaged a month ago. But I seem to spend all my free time browsing wedding blogs, making lists, gathering ideas, piling inspiration photos. . . . last night I started a blog so my mom (who lives in another country but is paying for the wedding) and FI could be in the loop on my planning. Pretty sure my FI thinks I'm insane.

FI is English and from quite a humble family. People get engaged and then married two months later in a little stone church. I'm American, love the idea of a long engagement to plan and gloat, and can't wait to celebrate with pretty flowers and lots of family and friends.

Am I crazy for being this excited? I feel like I am in constant 'almost vacation mode' . . . you know. . . a week before vacation you are excited, don't mind getting up for work, eat a little less so you look good on the beach in your bikini, mentally start to pack your suitcase. . .etc. Am I going to be like this for the next 14 months?? Anyone else feel wedding planning happy? If anything, getting engaged has made me the opposite of snarky. I am floating on a pink cloud of wedding.

celticmyss · July 2012

Right now being engaged is new and shiny and exciting. Maybe it will stay that way for you but honestly the requirements of dealing with budgets, contracts and the differing expectations and desires of family members usually diminishes the joy of planning once things get serious.

I wouldn't say I hate planning at this point but there is a huge difference between perusing bridal magazines and looking at all the pretty things and making hard decisions.

I also have to say I never considered my engagement a time to gloat.

LetsHikeToday · July 2012

If I were you, I wouldn't gloat.

brandichamberlain · July 2012

I agree with Celtic. Looking at stuff is all fine and dandy until you have until X date to pick Y flowers within Z price range that goes with every other detail. Enjoy being engaged and the process, but it isn't always just a fantastic time. Congratulations, though!

lbarr088 · July 2012

Gloating what exactly? That's just weird. I'm excited for my wedding but not like ZOMG excited 24/7. There's a lot that goes into it and a lot of planning. Come back 2 months prior to yours and tell me how you feel ;

Jlp818 · July 2012

I was super stoked the first two months after we got engaged and ran around like a nut but it has settled in now and I've definitely relaxed (still really excited though). You probably will come down a bit too.

Lizzieyounce · July 2012

I was excited for the first few months...I mean super excited. I'm still excited to be marrying the man of my dreams, but now that the work of planning has set in, I'm calmer. Planning can be a headache, TBH, but I have FI's help so theres that. Mostly, though, the shininess does wear off to an extent, so be prepared for that and don't feel disappointed when it does.

Enjoy your engagement!

lindseyann410 · July 2012

While I'm not sure what you're gloating about, since people get engaged everyday, keeping riding that pink cloud honey, because I'm sure once you start getting down to the actual logistics of it such as budget, guest list, seating arrangements, etc, weddings are going to look a lot less rosey.

Good luck with planning though.

abbiecorwin · July 2012

I totally understand what you are feeling, and I have been engaged for 9 months now, getting married in January. I think the best way to keep that feeling is to make sure planning doesn't get too stressful. And the best way to do that, in my opinion, is to stay on top of it, not letting anything become rushed or last minute. For example, I wanted to send Save the Dates made from our engragement pictures in May. So I had the pictures taken in February. When they came back, in March, I designed 5 possible versions (on magnets). Then I haded them over to my fiance to look at. He takes FOREVER to think about things, so I just left them for 2 weeks. Then I reminded him, and made the changes with his suggestions. I ordered them in April, and sent them out it May. Following this pattern. I am able to calmly complete each step while getting excited about the next! Right now I am finishing up invitations (to be mailed in November) and designing the centerpieces for our cocktail tables. The hardest part for me honestly, is to not talk to everyone about every detail I am thinking and planning. I hold back, because I want them to be surprised at the wedding.

So I say good for you! Keep that excitement and enjoy every step and every minute, because (hopefully) this will be the only time you get to do all of this.

kaceymarie · July 2012

i was when i got engaged. and then i get in moods. so yeah. i am loving planning.

AliMarieABC · July 2012

Erm, I think my use of gloat may be a bit misinterperted!

"Gaze at or think about something with great satisfaction, gratification, or joy."

I didn't mean anything curuel or ill intended!! More as in I have sweet engagement dreams, love being asked about my ring or 'how' it happened, romance with my FI just feels so much more romantic, etc. and I am really ridding that wave!

I didn't mean it in a cruel way against anyone esle

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