QOTD 5/2

SSaltzman87 · May 2012

What WR questions do you not like being asked, or are just annoyed of being asked?

SSaltzman87 · May 2012

"Ooooh, next May!? Why so far out?" and from quite a few of our neighbors, "Oh hope we're invited!"

Annas2013 · May 2012

I really hate the "Are you going to have kids soon?" No. We're in our early 20s. No way in heck. Any question pertaining to children is not exactly welcome. Especially since the day we got engaged (actually about an hour after) his grandfather asked us if we'd started thinking of names for our future children. He was serious. It's not super WR but still.

Dealing specifically with the wedding, I hate the "Why don't you have a trellis, or mason jars, or aisle runners, etc". I have a minimalistic style which really works with my budget. Also I don't like clutter and having a lantern and candles and wine bottles and mason jars on a table would be tacky. Also there is no point in tons of decorations for a 20 minute outdoor ceremony.

SSaltzman87 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I really hate the "Are you going to have kids soon?" No. We're in our early 20s. No way in heck. Any question pertaining to children is not exactly welcome. Especially since the day we got engaged (actually about an hour after) his grandfather asked us if we'd started thinking of names for our future children. He was serious. It's not super WR but still.
Posted by Annas2013[/QUOTE]
I absolutely cannot stand being asked whether FI and I plan to have children. We're in our mid 20s and actually don't want to have children, I'm not shy about saying it anymore lol. My parents are even being asked and they've started coming up with clever answers.

rswans · May 2012

I think the questions about why we're not getting married until next May bother me the most, but that's because I would have been happy getting married sooner, like this fall, but my FI wanted to wait. I guess it just makes me a little touchy about that topic. Otherwise, my friends and family have been really good about not picking at anything and are asking broad questions like "how's planning going?"

hisbabygirl76 · May 2012

Thankfully this question hasnt been asked a ton anymore but the most annoying thing so far has been "you arent seriously doing a big wedding for your 2nd time around". UM yes I am . Its FI's first wedding. We have the right to have whatever kind of wedding we want.

melb2013 · May 2012

I don't like the "You've started planning so soon??" Yes, I have. And if I hadn't, I'd be up shits creek right now because I don't have time to do any planning for the next 6 months and I would have had to wait until 6 months before my wedding to plan.

I also don't like the "Why are you waiting so long?" Because I'm very young and I wanted to be financialy stable before we got married. By waiting this long, I had plenty of time to get my business settled without freaking out.

jmozul01 · May 2012

Someone flat out asked me if they were invited and I def didn't like that. Luckily I was going to invite them anyway so it didn't turn into an akward moment although I did joke around as if they weren't invited by saying the guest list wasn't finalized :-)

kaybee1987 · May 2012

I actually just got asked by my DAD last night, "Why are you guys spending so much freaking money to have this wedding and a honeymoon to timbuktu, when you SHOULD be putting down on a house and paying off student loans?"

For the record, we are paying for our wedding and honeymoon. We have a budget that we are sticking very tightly to. AND -- everything will be paid off by the time of the wedding. And, last time I checked... Ireland =/= Timbuktu...

Beyond that... I really haven't had people ask me many annoying questions...

jazzerinashorty · May 2012

I get annoyed when people ask "why such a long engagement" like a lot of you guys. We'll end up being engaged 21 months by the time we get married. Our families think our timeline is perfect, because the best man (FI's uncle) won't be back from Afghanistan until December. Also, my FI is in the process of getting med boarded out of the army, and is having surgeries to correct combat injuries (not to mention we only dated 8 months before we got engaged). I don't usually feel like having to explain all that to people I don't know very well...

worrelsj · May 2012

I've had a ton of people say "Wow, why so early!" when it has come to planning. Well yeah, if anyone really knows me, knows I'm a planner! We already had a pretty good idea of certain vendors and we have the extra money right now, so we booked our big checks.

FLGatorGal88 · May 2012

My FI and I have been engaged for almost 3 years I always get asked why did you wait so long... I want to say well frankly it's none of your business why we waited so long... but instead I put a smile on my face and say I was 21 when we got engaged... We were together for a little over a year and we still had a lot of growing up to do... the next 2 1/2 years gave us time to save up money since we are paying for our entire wedding ourselves and we also made us a lot closer.

[Deleted User] · May 2012

Ditto to length of engagement and kids....

mymissingpuzzlepiece · May 2012

I honestly haven't had anyone ask me any annoying questions.

RebCappon · May 2012

When are you going to have kids?
Why so far out?
Are we invited?

Really people, back off!

mss274 · May 2012

I have had quite a few of this question and I absolutley HATE this. "Who is paying for the wedding? How much are your parents and his parents paying? " Um, last time I checked you aren't my personal finance advisor. I should probably come back with why do you want to contribute?

[Deleted User] · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I have had quite a few of this question and I absolutley HATE this. "Who is paying for the wedding? How much are your parents and his parents paying? " Um, last time I checked you aren't my personal finance advisor. I should probably come back with why do you want to contribute?
Posted by mss274[/QUOTE]

OMG so rude!

DivaJenD · May 2012

To be perfectly honest, my biggest pet peeve is the fact that those that I don't necessarily see every single day keep asking "how's the wedding planning going?" every time I see them. I appreciate the interest and I'm sure they appreciate the very easy "small talk" topic, but there ARE other things going on in my life besides wedding planning!

I come here to talk "wedding" and I'll talk "wedding" with those in my life as well, but I am more than just a bride-to-be and I wish those in my life wouldn't forget that the rest of my life exists too.

PJBHL5 · May 2012

it takes a lot to annoy me, but probably the *most* frustrating question is when people say "Let me know when it is and we'll pencil it in."
Uhm, sorry, you're not on the guest list anyhow...

Annas2013 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I don't like the "You've started planning so soon??" Yes, I have. And if I hadn't, I'd be up shits creek right now because I don't have time to do any planning for the next 6 months and I would have had to wait until 6 months before my wedding to plan. I also don't like the "Why are you waiting so long?" Because I'm very young and I wanted to be financialy stable before we got married. By waiting this long, I had plenty of time to get my business settled without freaking out.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

<div>We're young too and it still weirds me out a little when people ask why we're waiting so long. His cousin just got married at 23 to a girl who is 19. They keep asking why we don't just elope. Apparently being out of college isn't a big deal to them as it is to us. Saying you want to be financially stable should shut them up and make them respect your decision though.</div>

jmcjdw13 · May 2012

Not necessarily a question but I don't like when people will invite themselves to the wedding (e.g."can't wait to be there, when's the date?") and my FI and I have no intention of inviting them. Not to be mean but there are some people we are not as close with and with a guest list limit, our goal is to stick with close friends and family.

lalans · May 2012

DivaJen, similar problem...I'm on The knot alot, but I havn't done much planning, and I'm not really that into many of the details. I think I frustrate some of my friends, and my FI's mom with my tons of ..."hmm, havn't thought about that", or "I'm kindof indifferent" to all their questions. My FI is even worse then me

[Deleted User] · May 2012

In Response to Re:QOTD 5/2:[QUOTE]Not necessarily a question but I don't like when people will invite themselves to the wedding e.g.quot;can't wait to be there, when's the date?quot; and my FI and I have no intention of inviting them.nbsp; Not to be mean but there are some people we are not as close with and with a guest list limit, our goal is to stick with close friends and family.
Posted by jmcjdw13[/QUOTE]
One of my coworkers invited herself soon as she found out I was engaged. She brought it up again a few days ago but I don't have the heart to tell her we've decided to do Vegas.

pittpoint1119 · May 2012

I had a friend that I am really close with from college. She is getting married here when she got engaged I never asked her if I was in it or anything. Our other friend from college got engaged and asked both of us to be in her wedding. Neither me or the other girl are in the one who is getting married here this month. After our recent engaged friend who asked us, she said to me did you pick your bridal party yet and when I said yes she goes I hope I am in it! Then I said we chose family and 2 friends ( who have been bff since we were in 1st grade) She goes O you can always have more. Ummmm no you can be a guest. I dont need 20 of my bf up there! ughhhh then I had a friend of mine who assumed since I was in her wedding she is in mine. She had the nerve to facebook my sister and ask her if she was. My sister replied I have no clue and then called me.. I just want next May to get here alreadyy..

O and I hate the questions.. WOW you have so much done why you have it all done? The more you get done the less it will be exciting.

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