update re: House

mamameech · June 2012

No luck with the house showings last night and FI is totally bummed. I'm trying to be supportive but his negativity is really frustrating. I mean the house has only been listed for a day and we haven't even had our open house yet! He set himself up for disappointment by convincing himself we'd sell to the first people to see the house and he made matters worse by staying at the neighbours during the viewings so that he could spy on the people coming to the house. He even went as far as to put the neighbour's baby monitor in our house to listen to their comments - which only offended him (a comment about the floors not being done professionally - even tho the floors were done by the builders of the house lol). He was so upset last night and I couldn't seem to cheer him up. I was disappointed too but not completely discouraged - he's not being reasonable or realistic at all! It's times like this that I really see his mother's negativity coming through...

kellycatalo · June 2012

From what it sounds like in your area, you guys shouldn't really worry. Your house is beautiful, it's great that people are coming to see it! I can't believe someone made a comment about the floors, they looked pretty great to me!

It's hard because he probably got his hopes up just because it was the first day, but I think that with time he'll get used to it (or you will sell before that happens). Also, I don't think it's common for people to come look at the house and then immediately whip out their checkbooks. It takes a couple days because they need to mull it over, or visit other houses they had been considering to compare. So I wouldn't say that there wasn't any luck. Having people in to see the house is a good start, atleast people are interested!

volleygurl0306 · June 2012

I agree with Kelly. And most people want to see a house more than once before buying so expecting an offer on the spot was pretty hopeful on his part. I 100% feel your pain though on having a man who gets down and who can't be cheered up. My FI does this about his job stuff. I talked to my mom about it and she says wives are always stuck being the cheerleaders! It is frustrating though to have a negative person who won't have some perspective. AND, when we want to be frustrated we feel like we have to be the one with a smile on since he's pissy so we bottle it up. I think you have the right mentality and I find that even if I'm always the obnoxious cheerleader, FI eventually appreciates it. And, I believe that everything happens for a reason so being positive usually makes us right in the end (yes! haha) because something good does happen. Maybe those people are cheap and were going to low-ball you and the people with the big wallets are coming later! Either way having interest is HUGE and people are going to nit-pick because everyone's standards and tastes are different (plus people feel if they find fault they have more bargaining power) so I would suggest not listening in any more to your FI. Stay positive, girl! It'll happen!

mamameech · June 2012

I'm not discouraged at all and I just hope he can pick himself up today. Town homes in our area of flipping like crazy so I'm sure we'll sell; we just need to be patiend and positive. We have an open house on Sunday so hopefully some good prospects come to visit

calindi · June 2012

I also would point out to him that potential buyers will NEVER sound too enthusiastic as they want to keep their negotiating standpoint high. Often people will point out perceived slights (like the floors) just to show the realtor that they might like it, but they aren't in love with it (even if they are) so they can try to negotiate off the price to replace the floors, for instance, even if they never intend to replace it.

Try to keep him busy during future showings - buy tickets to a movie that starts at the same time or something to get him out of the neighborhood and away from the baby monitor!

Katiesue04 · June 2012

Yup a house isn't something you buy on the spot. The more people you have coming through your house the more chance you will have to sell it, so keep having those open houses

mamameech · June 2012

I had a hair appt last night so I was away from the neighbourhood, but next time, I'll be taking him elsewhere for sure! Especially during our open house on Sunday.

smartlypretty · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_update-re-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:8c480d2c-8e5e-47ee-a7d4-9f44a4b7f467Post:e3048a57-be56-4edc-8f69-01e809669948">Re: update re: House</a>:
[QUOTE]I also would point out to him that potential buyers will NEVER sound too enthusiastic as they want to keep their negotiating standpoint high. Often people will point out perceived slights (like the floors) just to show the realtor that they might like it, but they aren't in love with it (even if they are) so they can try to negotiate off the price to replace the floors
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

<div>This is a REALLY, REALLY good point.</div>

meagandal · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_update-re-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:8c480d2c-8e5e-47ee-a7d4-9f44a4b7f467Post:e3048a57-be56-4edc-8f69-01e809669948">Re: update re: House</a>:
[QUOTE]I also would point out to him that potential buyers will NEVER sound too enthusiastic as they want to keep their negotiating standpoint high. Often people will point out perceived slights (like the floors) just to show the realtor that they might like it, but they aren't in love with it (even if they are) so they can try to negotiate off the price to replace the floors, for instance, even if they never intend to replace it. Try to keep him busy during future showings - buy tickets to a movie that starts at the same time or something to get him out of the neighborhood and away from the baby monitor!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

THIS EXACTLY!!

SCogs18 · June 2012

Yikes! He was setting himself to fail up with the baby monitor! What a huge mistake! You don't need to know what others think of your house unless they want to buy it. He should really just be thrilled you had people viewing the house the first night it was on the market! The house behind my parent's has been on the market for 18 months and vacant for 12! Yours will sell, but he has to realize, it's not really "his house" any more, it's on the market, which is so different. You guys already bought a new one and are moving on. However, if you are getting comments about the floors, you should make it known to your agent that they are professionally done! My FI is the same way, once he is down it is SO hard to cheer him up.

I think buying movie tickets or going out to dinner at the same time as showings/open houses is a great idea. I knew a family friend that blew a sale because he insisted on being present at the open house and offended perspective buyers when they had something negative to say about floors/paint colors/personal touches.

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