some advice is needed....
For my wedding, my FI and I were thinking that we would have the wedding at 2:30 pm and then after we would do our pictures. The wedding is going to be in our yard so while we are doing pictures, we are going to have like a cocktail hour in the house so that no one is just sitting around. We were thinking that the reception would start at 5 and that it would be about 2 1/2 to 3 hours long. We dont really want to do a dance or anything like that, but after the reception, we are going to have some of the people (anyone who wants) come back to our house and we will have drinks and a fire. I was telling my mom this and she said that it is stupid for us not to have a dance. She says that the dance and the drinking is the only thing that people even come for and that no one really enjoys the wedding but the people getting married. Also, she says that it would be a HUGE dissapointment if people drove to come to the wedding and then they didnt get drinks and a DJ. Me and my FI are paying for this out of our pocket and I reminded her of that. She just said to spend less on the dress and those details and more on what people are going to want. I look at this as my day and I would rather have the dinner at the reception and then just go back and hang out with the people in a more casual way. Is it really that important to have a dance that I should give up other things to make everyone happy? I have never heard anyone complain about having a wedding to go to because I mean no one has to come. Maybe i am just not thinking about this the right way, but I thought it was my day...not my moms...I would really like to know what people think. Thank You!
Re: some advice is needed....
we wont have dancing until the after party. there isnt room in the reception location for dancing and tables for people to eat at. we will move the tables and dance there for the after party, most people who wont want to stay for the afterparty arent into dancing or djs.
do what you want, not what ur mom wants luv
Dancing and drinking are not the point of a reception, but they sure make it fun, especially is they have been at a cocktail (2) hour at your house. Is that dry too? If so, I'd count that as the reception and just go home.. if I were a guest.
No one HAS to come, but isn't the point of in inviting them that you actuall want them there?
What are you serving at the cocktail hour?
I think it is fine to not have a dance. Plenty of people do that. Just don't expect people to stay as long and don't expect everyone to show up for the bonfire part, especially if they are dressed up. I would maybe warn people so they can bring a change of clothes or something. The dance and drinking are not what all people come for but it is what people stay longer at receptions for.
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The wedding is going to be at our house and the place that we are doing the reception is going to be about 15 minutes from the house. Also, the reason that we had such a gap between the wedding and reception is that is what the photographer said is needed for pictures, but we are most likely going to pay a little more and have 2 for those pictures. That way there will be a smaller gap between- about an hour or so... The people that are going to the wedding- grandparents, aunts and uncle, ect... are most likely not going to stay for the after party and that is fine. We are just going to put it on the invitation and that way everyone will know. I am not sure what we are doing for the cocktail party..any suggestions? I have never been to one before....
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I do agree with the others that it would be best to minimize your gap in some way. We did all of our group pictures in 30 minutes. My DH was in a wedding where they spent 1 1/2 -2 hours taking photos, during which time I was by myself at the reception. It's annoying. You might want to discuss with your photog ways to minimize time spent taking photos, and if that doesn't work, plan for your reception to begin without you and then you and the others taking photos will arrive late.
For the cocktail hour, you could have drinks and snacks served, and maybe some music playing (ipod hooked up to sound system?). There's only so much you can do with a cocktail hour, which is why it is important to keep it to around an hour rather than 2.
If you still have to keep the gap that long, then serve lots of food.
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Ditto Goheels on the cocktail suggestions. I've never heard of one longer than an hour, though.
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