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Need help picking a location!

Hi everyone! First post here. I've been engaged a little over a week and am excited to start planning!

My fiance and I are having a very difficult time deciding in which city to get married, and we'd very much appreciate your insights!

Some background: I'm a Chicago girl; fiance is from St. Louis. We met at the University of Illinois -- roughly halfway between Chicago and St. Louis. After we graduated in 2010, we moved to Kansas City, where we currently live.

Kansas City is 8 hours to Chicago and 4 hours to St. Louis. Chicago to St. Louis is about 4 hours.

So, my whole family and most of our friends live in Chicago. Fiance's family is in St. Louis. We have friends in Kansas City, but very few we'd want to invite to our wedding. We also work very demanding  full-time jobs and have very, VERY little time off.

Having a wedding in KC would be easiest for us, but it might be difficult to get friends and family all the way here. 

Having a wedding in Chicago would guarantee the biggest crowd, but it'd be difficult to plan from afar.

Having a wedding in St. Louis would be a compromise; however, it'd still be difficult to plan from afar, and the 4 hour drive from Chicago to St. Louis might still deter some friends and family.

We decided last night to pursue getting married at Kansas City's beautiful cathedral, which is walking distance to hotels and reception venues and accessible via public transportation. We thought this convenience might attract out-of-towners. However, I just learned that the cost to have a wedding at the Cathedral is very, very high. 

I'm registered at a different parish in KC, but it's not convenient to hotels or reception sites, so it would require guests to rent a car. 

Any advice? Thanks in advance!

Re: Need help picking a location!

  • I was a bridesmaid in my college roommate's wedding last year. The bride didn't have a solid hometown as she was an army brat, her parents moved to Arkansas after she started college so she had never lived there, the groom was from South Carolina, and they both currently live in Chicago. They planned the wedding themselves and had it in.... Chicago. And everyone was fine with it.
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  • 1 question KC Missouri side or Kansas side? Doesn't really matter but I love the plaza and the fountains. There is a lot of great architecture in that city. You really couldn't go wrong!
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  • edited November 2012
    Thanks everyone for your input thus far. Some answers:

    -- We don't have any VIP guests who cannot travel for legitimate reasons (i.e. health issues or work obligations). I can think of a few who find travel an inconvenience.

    -- I'll try looking at some of the KC boards. Thank you!!

    -- I live on the Missouri side, and work right downtown. It is beautiful!

    We are definitely leaning toward a KC wedding. I haven't spoken to many people about this location, and I'm a little worried that the travel might scare many guests away. Some of my family members don't have a lot of money... plus many of my friends are in grad school (not a lot of spare money) or are starting their careers (not a lot of vacation time). I'm visiting Chicago this weekend, and will be meeting up with a few close friends, so I'm hoping to get an idea of whether they'd be up for the trip to KC or not. :)
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