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Does the bride give a toast?

careyblackmarcareyblackmar
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What's the tradition with toasts?  My books say that the groom, father(s), BM, BRIDE, and MOH usually give them.  However, at the few weddings I've been to, the brides didn't speak.  What's proper?  What did/will you do?
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Re: Does the bride give a toast?

  • CJ4578CJ4578 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think the bride is expected to give a toast (I've never seen that), but you could if you wanted to. I spoke at my RD, mostly because I wanted to thank everyone who was there to help us and share our day with us. So it was mostly a "thank you." My dad spoke at my wedding (that was somewhat random, he just kind decided on the spot that he needed to make a toast) but other than that it was just BM and MOH toasts. I think if you want a lot of toasts, that's totally up to you, but it is perfectly acceptable for just the BM and MOH to toast.

    As a side note- if people want to speak, and you don't want to spend an hour on toasts at the wedding, you can always ask them to speak at the RD.

    So, do what you like, it will work out! Good luck!
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  • pirategal03pirategal03 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that the toasts are something that can go against "tradition" as long as whomever is giving a toast is comfortable doing it.

    We skipped toasts alltogether.  We just made our very best effort to speak to everyone at the reception.
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  • acausey6879acausey6879 member
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    edited December 2011
    We just had our MOH and BM say something short and sweet... I am not the best at on the spot speeches! 
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  • Beth0882Beth0882 member
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    edited December 2011
    My dad gave  a quick thank you speech/toast for everyone coming (which we thought was tradition, not the groom's father, since brides' parents usually pay), then the BM and MOH, and then FIL gave a surprise toast which was awful.  I think if you want to, you can, but its not expected! 
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  • alliegator8alliegator8 member
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    edited December 2011
    We had our MOH and BM give the toasts at the wedding.  HD and I gave a toast at the rehearsal dinner as a way to say thank you to everyone for going out of their way to come to the wedding.  Now my friend got married in August, and her and her HD each gave a quick toast after their MOH and BM.  They were short and sweet, nothing too long. I thought it was sweet.  So really do what you feel comfortable with and want to do.  I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.
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