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Second wedding...do we register?

JennniferNoel536JennniferNoel536 member
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Hello fellow knotties...here's the dilema.  It's my 2nd wedding and my fiance and I already live together...we have some household items that we each from previous marriages.  Is it proper to register for gifts? 
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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    I don't think it's wrong, but if you do register, I'd keep it small, with lower-ticket items (I'd definitely be ok with getting you new towels and sheets, but I'd side-eye the dyson or 16-settings of china on your list)
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  • ciligirlciligirl
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    Jen, I am in the same boat- my 2nd and FI 1st.  I did not want to register but my friends and sisters were insisting on throwing a shower and FI's mom too (she has no girls, only 2 boys).  I said how about just a party and they basically said no and you have no say.  Then people kept asking me where we were registered at and when of my guy friends asked me while we were watching football and throwing back beers "heah, where are you registering"  I knew we had no choice.   Oh, and on a side note the same guy said to me, why don't you register for a honeymoon or a new car...ugh! 

    I was so uncomfortable registering because I too have everything and with the economy the way it is some of our friends have lost jobs while we are doing pretty good.  So we ended up going to BBand B and walked around with an associate.  I told her the situation and she was very helpful.  Almost everything we registered for is under $25.  We had things that could use some repacing like towels, pot holders,cutting board and a few things we wanted like sushi plates, a collander for over the sink and some attachments for my cuisinart.

    I see why sleeper said she would side eye it and I think it really depends on your friends and family.  My first wedding was 20 yrs ago and I have been a widow for 14 yrs.  Honestly, our friends and family I think are just so happy for us and want to celebrate as much as they can.
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    My mom registered for her second wedding (granted, this was after 22 years of marriage to my dad).  She only registered for crystal stemware and flatware as she lost those items when her moving van caught fire when moving from out of state.  Bottom line: Keep it simple.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_second-weddingdo-we-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:f33f6806-4f4e-4e74-b1b0-b5175209b345Post:7365da44-400a-41f1-8e67-970df1acfe60">Re: Second wedding...do we register?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I don't think it's wrong, but if you do register, I'd keep it small, with lower-ticket items (I'd definitely be ok with getting you new towels and sheets, but I'd side-eye the dyson or 16-settings of china on your list)</strong>
    Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

    This exactly. I think it also depends on how long it's been since your first marriage. 5+ years wouldn't bother me, but any less than that with no unusual circumstances, I'd probably roll my eyes.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    You should register. The information should only be give to those who ask. I don't see anything wrong with putting new china or crystal on your registry, as long as you include plenty of items in the lower range.
                       
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  • antibride2013antibride2013 member
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    I wouldn't register.  I agree with sleeper, I side-eye registries for second weddings.
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    I feel like reading train wreck after train wreck on TK has lowered my standards... before joining TK I would have side-eyed this.  Now I'm sort of "meh" about it because it's not nearly the tackiest thing I've read about.  So that's my disclaimer - my opinion on this has changed, and it may be something that you should ask a few close friends about to get a better feel for your circle.

    Regardless, do not be like the OP a few posts down from here who was married for 6 months, got divorced, and is now auctioning off her (incredibly expensive) china and crystal on ebay.  $10 says she registers for another, equally expensive, brand if and when she remarries.  THAT is side-eye-worthy.  Her china was about $500/place setting and she now says she "doesn't care about this stuff."  So I guess my advice is don't be that girl.

    I would also keep it smaller and streamlined.  Maybe just one store instead of 3 - and sticking to the essentials instead of adding the margarita maker.  Things that can use a freshening up are fine - everyday dinnerware, flatware, bedding, towels, etc. all wear out over time, and this could be an opportunity to retool some decor choices.  But overall I'd be sort of minimal this time around.
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  • sparkles776sparkles776 member
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    I do not side eye second wedding registries. Shoot, I know someone on their third marriage in 10 years that is registered, now that I side eye.
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