E question about kids at wedding

Re: E question about kids at wedding

• TiffannieF member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  There are posts asking similar questions to this just a couple before yours, try reading through at least the first page of posts before posting.
  
  I think some girls were saying you can do a cut off such as immediate family only.
  
  And FWIW I had one infant at our wedding and she didn't make a peep...

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• strlzfan11 member

  

  January 2012

  You can limit the kids at your wedding to family only.

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• pillsburyaj member

  

  January 2012

  Thanks for the advice, ladies

  

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  January 2012

  If you do not want crying infants at the ceremony, the solution is to not invite infants to your wedding. You can do cut-offs: No kids, immediate family only, no preschool kids (but you can't break up sibling groups). But no parent I know will leave their child with a strange baby sitter in a strange town. My family has even had issues with church nurseries.
  
  We're inviting people of all ages to our wedding, and spreading the word on the web site and by word-of-mouth about "escape areas" at the church - a women's restroom with a couch, and the fellowship hall. Very few parents will sit through a ceremony with a crying infant. They'll go to a crying room, etc.

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• allisong23 member

  

  January 2012

  I wouldn't let a stranger babysit my infant. That being said, I would sit in the back near an exit and leave if he started to fuss. We were at a wedding when he was 9 weeks old and he didn't make a peep.

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_e-question-kids-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bb870b38-0966-4c7b-9446-cf1031931212Post:e905ed68-15fb-4482-b7af-5a1464da7329">Re: E question about kids at wedding</a>:
  [QUOTE]Either invite children, or don't.  You can also have a clear cut off like immediate family kids only. Many people will say breastfeeding infants are the exception to any no kids rules and have to be invited.  <strong>That is 100% false. Parents need to realize their children, even breastfeeding ones, are not always invited to events and they can decline if they don't want to attend without the little one.</strong> If you do invite children, you can't force a babysitter on the parents.
  Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]
  Word. To all of this. Especially the bolded part.

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• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2012

  I wholeheartedly believe that kids are like any other group of guests, whether you are talking co-workers, church famly, neighbors, etc.  You do not have to invite all or none, and you don't "have" to have a cut-off.
  
  Many advise to have a cutoff because parents will get offended when their little one wasn't invited.  In our family, we invite the children we have a relationship with, just like we do with adults.  I am not giving up two seats at DD's wedding to a coworker's kids that DD and her FI don't even know.
  
  Parents do get up in arms but they are the ones who are rude, not you.  We have no problem making that value judgement on which kids are invited and politely explaining to the parents if they are rude enough to ask.

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• specialk84

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_e-question-kids-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bb870b38-0966-4c7b-9446-cf1031931212Post:ff70f0ca-0ea5-4923-aff0-a925b12c385d">Re: E question about kids at wedding</a>:
  [QUOTE]If you do not want crying infants at the ceremony, the solution is to not invite infants to your wedding. You can do cut-offs: No kids, immediate family only, no preschool kids (but you can't break up sibling groups). But no parent I know will leave their child with a strange baby sitter in a strange town. My family has even had issues with church nurseries. We're inviting people of all ages to our wedding, and spreading the word on the web site and by word-of-mouth about "escape areas" at the church - a women's restroom with a couch, and the fellowship hall. <strong>Very few parents will sit through a ceremony with a crying infant.</strong> They'll go to a crying room, etc.
  Posted by ElisabethJoanne[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>You haven't met my SIL. My photographer has a pic of my brother, a GM, giving her the death glare for not removing her daughter.</div>

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