No wedding band for the bride

Ana139 · August 2012

So my FI and I have a very tight budget and this means we have to cut out a few things and get creative. We opted to not get a wedding band for myself and just use my E-ring. I have gotten a lot of negative feedback from my family.

Is it that bad to not have a wedding band?? My ring has an odd shape and I would have to get a custom band and it would be way to exspensive.

Is anyone else not getting a wedding band?

hllokttygirl · August 2012

We purchased a cheaper band for now. Going to upgrade down the road. Unless your family is willing to pay for the band, I would nicely explain that it is not in your budget. Your wedding day is about marrying the person you love not breaking the bank to make everyone else happy. You will have a beautiful day no matter what is on your finger.

trawas01 · August 2012

We didn't spend much on my ring (about 200) and even less on Fi's (20!). We got some judgy comments from family when we mentioned Fi's but at the end of the day we just keep saying we need to do whats best for us. Not everyone else...

mlperkins12 · August 2012

You might consider checking eBay. I have a friend who's FI bought her e-ring on there. I have bought jewelry and not had any trouble. If you decided not to have a wedding band and just use your e-ring, I think that is a perfectly acceptable choice.

Ana139 · August 2012

Thanks for the input. You guys are right. We are paying for this ourselves and we need to do what is right for us.

NRod70 · August 2012

I actually am doing the opposite of you. I am not in love with my e-ring and am going to wear a band only. FI is perfectly fine with that. My ring was a total surprise, I had no idea he bought it and he was prepared for it not being ''the one''.

That being said, if you can't swing the custom band (I wouldn't be able to myself either), you can get a very inexpensive band if you wouldn't mind going without the e-ring. Otherwise, screw them all and just wear your e-ring!

All that matters is what you two want.

xxjen015 · August 2012

I agree, do what you want!! It's your wedding, not theirs! If you're comfortable using just your engagement ring, that's what matters. If you really wanted something, you could go with ebay or overstock.com or something like that, but if you aren't going to be able to wear the band with your e-ring, that might take away from the meaning of it. Just because it isn't traditional, doesn't mean it's bad! I think it will just make your ring that you already love even more special.

schnugglebug · August 2012

It's your wedding do what is right for you...
in our case FI is not getting one...
I bought him an engagement ring... which was gold/silve plated... for like 35$ through Tocarra jewelery and he loves it... as it matches mine... and he doesn't need another ring, so he is using the same one for the wedding
plus he can't wear his at work, neither can I

I think an engagemnt ring is fine... even my FMIL only wears her band... since she is worried about losing the diamond on her e-ring... whatever suits you
we are all different
and it is YOU who is wearing it

Do what makes YOU happy!

CFM102012 · August 2012

I have a good friend who just uses her e-ring as her wedding band. She's not into wearing a lot of jewelry anyway so why have a piece that you may not wear. Just because you wore it for your e-ring doesn't mean it can't also be your wedding ring, it's still from your FI/H. If you want to make it a little more special for the wedding check into getting it engraved or something and definately get it cleaned.

I technically have an e-ring but it's FI's engineering ring which I'll give back to him after the wedding. The part that matters is the commitment associated with the ring, not how much you/he spent on it.

jenny&will2014 · August 2012

my sister in law did this and I told her it just looks like shes engaged not married but to each her own. She finally took my advice and got a plain band (which you can pick up for $20) but its your choice since its your relationship

NMI · August 2012

Don't listen to the negative people!

If you are happy, then no one else's opinion should matter.

shasha5847 · August 2012

I totally understand! I have a ring from my birthmom who passed away when I was young. I always wanted her ring and my dad gave it to me at the beginning of the year. The engagement ring portion of this ring is a solitaire pear-shaped diamond and it sets into a beautiful and intricate ring guard. I was going to use this whole piece to get married in. My dad and mom kept saying that it wasn't a wedding ring. My stance is that we didn't want to spend the money on ANOTHER ring (I already have a separate engagement ring from my FI b/c he wanted to give me his own ring as well, which he had designed so that I can wear it as a right-hand ring later). I told my parents that I was wearing the ring and guard and that my FI was going to put that on me for the wedding and that the solitaire will be considered my "wedding ring". No to add to all of that, the jeweler that we got a custom ring for my FI at ended up with a buy a wedding band, get a wedding band sale. So we did end up going and getting me another band for free so that when I choose to not wear the ornate guard, I have something else.

Moral of the story: Do what feels right to you guys. It's not about what it looks like to others, but what it feels like to you.

Sorry for the long response.

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