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Inviting Kids

ktwed1ktwed1
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I'm having a really hard time getting my FI's opinion on inviting kids. We originally were going to stick to a guest list of 75 it's now up to about 114. This is not including FI's friends with kids.
FI has given me a guest list but nothing that tells me who had kids and how many. He just keeps saying they probably won't even bring them. About 90 of our guests are out of state. We are paying for our wedding and I'm trying to keep a budget. Im getting frustrated that he won't give me a straight answer of kids or no kids. If we invite kids he's going to have to make cuts which he doesn't want to do. Ready to rip my hair out. What are your thoughts on inviting kids. We will invite our nieces and nephews for sure.
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  • cnf2013cnf2013 member
    1000 Comments Second Anniversary 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    We're having kids at our wedding. There's no way we couldn't. FI's whole family all have herds of children each and are coming from across the country for our wedding. They're doing a huge two week vacation out of our wedding, so the kids are coming. Plus FI is really close to all the kids in his family. My side doesn't really have many, so it was mostly his call. But honestly, it was never really discussed per say. We both just assumed the kids would be in tow and planned for that. 

    Hopefully you guys can figure something out that you're both happy with.
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  • bar10521bar10521 member
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    We're not inviting kids. There are just too many between our two families and we'd have to make cuts elsewhere which we don't want to do. The kids in our families also aren't that well behaved so it's one more strike against inviting kids in our minds. The only kids invited are the ones in the wedding so there will only be about 4.

    I would be so frustrated if my FI wouldn't make up his mind about the kids. Good luck!
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  • ashlidieashlidie member
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    We are not inviting kids except for my nephews, who I am making my ring bearers, and his cousin's daughter that will be our flower girl.  We simply don't have the space, with children 10 and under that takes off close to 20 kids.
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  • anastassiiatanastassiiat
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    Since we have a 3 year old a lot of people that have became our close friends have kids, but we are not inviting any of those kids. We've spoken with our friends and they actually prefer it that way, so they can relax and have some time with their SOs. We are making exeptions for kids in the family (but there are only 3 younger once, and another 5 or so who are in their late teens), and for my friends who have kids and will travel from out of country to attend the wedding (but there's only 2 of them). So overall we'll have a max of 10 kids.
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  • belle7flbelle7fl
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    Ktwed my FI is the same way. My niece who will be 4 is in the wedding so she will be there other then that I only have one other child on my side of the family so if my cousin decides to bring him that's fine. His side is a different story, there are a bunch of kids younger then 12 and all but one are brats. I know his sisters twins have to come because they are OOT and I know a few of his cousins won't bring their kids because they want an "adult" night but I am worried about the others. His plan is to ask the other few parents if they plan on bringing them and kinda hint in a nice way that we don't really want them there because it more of a formal affair.
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  • rmp4996rmp4996 member
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    We are not inviting kids. FI has wayyy too many on his side, and they are animals. I've seen them at partys throwing food, running around, etc and I don't want that at the wedding. It will save us a lot of money as well, and a lot of people have said they enjoy a night out without them. I'm giving people plenty of notice so they can arrange sitters, but it was an easy choice for us because there are just wayyy too many. There are 4 kids in the WP, those are the only ones who will be invited and I'm pretty sure most of those kids will leave before the reception because their parents want to just relax and enjoy the night and the kids are so small they would have to chase them all night instead.
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  • katiereithkatiereith
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    We are inviting kids. I personally love kids. But the main reason is that his side of the family has tons of them. One of his uncles managed to have 6 of them. I would hate to see a good chunk of his family not show because they couldn't bring their children. I am even going to have a children's activity area so the kiddies won't get bored as fast.
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  • FutureMrsPrice2013FutureMrsPrice2013
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    We are only inviting the children in the wedding party. We're keeping the guest list low since all we really need is 50 anyway and paying for kids is in my mind stupid. They won't eat half the food and just fill up on cake. Plus we are having alcohol so I don't want drunk parents letting their kids run around crazy lol.
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  • kellyelizkellyeliz member
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    We aren't inviting kids -I'm the oldest of my cousins and after me there are about 30 kids (my dad is one of 8). FI's family doesn't really have any. We are only having a flowe girl which is a friend's daughter and she doesn't want her at the reception either so before the dinner and drinking begins she will be getting picked up by her grandmother (I know that's not proper etiquette but that was the mother's decision not mine haha)
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  • cassienoel022cassienoel022
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    This was a huge battle for us.  In the end we are not inviting young kids (in elementry school and younger).  For the wedding party kids we are hiring a babysitter starting after dinner.  My parents are very against kids at a wedding and since they are paying, they won the long battle. 
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  • ktwed1ktwed1
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    I'm really leaning on not inviting kids. I just can't seem to get FI to give me an answer one way or another and honestly I don't even think he knows which kids belong to which friends, their names, ages, etc. Thank goodness we have time to figure it out but I'm not a patient person.
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