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Might have to change my centerpieces! 3 months to go!

Jcade7Jcade7
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When we booked our vineyard venue we specifically asked if candles were ok to use in a centerpiece. Our coordinator said it was fine as long as they abide by fire safety standards (which ours do). In our contract it also says candles are fine... 

4 days ago my coordinator tells me that candles are no longer allowed, the owner's decision, because they had a "problem" with another wedding. She says they're very strict on no candles AT ALL now and want me to switch to flameless, which I honestly think looks pretty cheesy and cheap.

Do I become Bridezilla and say it is printed in the contract that I can have candles and that's why I chose to book them? Do I go with flameless candles anyway and be flexible? Or do I waste money and switch my centerpieces all together? (which I REALLY can't afford)

By the way I already bought the centerpieces and candles and have specific details for my florist for my current candle lit centerpieces....

please HELP!
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Re: Might have to change my centerpieces! 3 months to go!

  • niemand88fniemand88f member
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    I would talk to them again, let them know the things that you posted- especially that you have already designed and purchased your centerpieces around being able to use candles.

    If they still say no candles allowed, I would go with a new centerpiece over flameless candles. I hope it doesn't come to that though!
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  • lexi913lexi913
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    I would also speak to them again, you don't have to be bridezilla, you can just explain that everything is already purchased and since you specifically asked about candles and had it printed in your contract, you would hope they would make an exception for you since it's only 3 months away.  As long as you stay calm and polite, I don't think there is anything bridezilla about it. 
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Be flexible!!! The only thing that matters at the end is that you and your fiance are married. The rest is just extra, and at this point you don't need the extra stress. We're in the final stretch so just have fun!!! 
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  • lovefuzzieslovefuzzies member
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    Agree with PPs.  It *IS* printed in your contract after all.
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  • Sassenach1743Sassenach1743 member
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    This is definitely worth another talk because it IS printed in the contract you signed when you booked them. I would lean pretty heavily on this fact. If they continue with the new "no candle" policy I would try to get them to reconsider due to the fact that this new policy was put in place AFTER you signed your contract so it should not affect your wedding. It's only fair. 

    They can enforce their new policy going forward but it should not be inflicted on you. Unless they want to reimburse you for the money you already spent on your centerpiece... and give them the receipts. Serious. Not Bridezilla. 

    *FWIW, I feel your pain. My coordinator just tried to pull a fast one on me 2 weeks ago. She tried to slide a $75 PER candelabra charge (I'm using 8 of them) past me after MONTHS of planning my flower centerpieces around their candelabras that were "included" with the venue... I even had a f-ing sample made (that cost me $235) and all of a sudden there's a charge to rent their candelabras?... NO WAY! I expressed my irritation and repeated the fact that this was NEVER mentioned over the last 10 months! They waived the charges :)

    Good luck to you!

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  • blferguson1sblferguson1s
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    Sorry you're having troubles. I agree with others that I could talk to them again about the issue and explain you've already made the purchase and have a signed contract allowing them. Is there anywhere in the contract stating the owner can change policies?

    I also just wanted to say that I'm using flameless candles all over the place for my wedding, including my centerpieces. I can assure you they won't look cheesy or cheap. It's all about how you use them. I would be surprised if anyone even noticed, but my venue is a little different so they'll be distracted by that.
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  • FruitSnack84FruitSnack84
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    Oooh I'd be so upset :( I'm sorry they're doing this! Definitely bring up the contract, it's not fair for them to change the rules at the end of the game!

    If you can't get them to agree, I think the flameless tealights will be okay. I understand that they don't look quite the same, but if you use frosted or mercury glass votive holders, I really don't think many people will know the difference. 

    I hope it works out though!
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  • Jcade7Jcade7
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    Thanks everyone for your feedback, I really appreciate it! I talked to my coordinator and she's going to have a meeting with the owners of the winery to see if they can make an exeption. She said she might not "be able to talk them into it and they're very strict about it," but I think I will just have to stress the fact that it is in the contract. I'll keep you girls updated! Thanks again.
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