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stressing out about guest list

jodieanddan2012jodieanddan2012
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Ok, so we are already over ont he guest list and I am praying that some people do NOT come to the wedding.  But I have a few people that I have to tell cannot bring dates.  I get the people want to have someone that they know at the wedding, but truth be told, all of my friends know one another and they will know lots of people there.  I have a problem with people bring random dates, just so they wont feel left out, and then me having to fork over 80$ per person for the event.  I also have a few friends that are freidns of friends.  I have known them for years, but they really are not MY friends.  They never want to hang out with us and never come to anything we invite them too, unless the mutual friend is there.  The male in the duo also said at one point that he and I could never really be freidns because we are too different and that he does not want to hang out without the other friend.  But my close friend, that i know them through, is insisting that it will be bad form to not invite them, since I have known them for so long.  I feel like this guest list is out of control.  I really don't know what to do!  There are people that I really want to be there, and they will be, but then there are all these ??'s about who else to do.  Is is crappy that I don't invite them, because I really don't know them that well, or we have not been friends for long enough?
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Re: stressing out about guest list

  • beckilee37beckilee37
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    I say invite only who you want to be there, and really think about that. Would you look back 10 years from now and be sad those people weren't there? If so, invite them. If not, don't. If they say anything, just say you have a limited budget and unfortunately you had to limit the guest list. They will understand. 
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  • Cassandra999Cassandra999 member
    100 Comments Second Anniversary
    Just make the list and stick to it, don't cave and say you can add people.   If you have already told someone they will be invited then you should invite them.  There is nothing wrong with not having plus 1's if the friends all know each other.  If you aren't close to someone, you don't have to invite them.  
    I know how you feel about being at the max amount and hoping people won't come.  I'm right there now.  It's impossible to guess if people are coming until you get their RSVP back.
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  • tiffanydanielstiffanydaniels
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    We personally did not send out save the dates, so that there is less people able to come, but are letting the people we for sure want to be there early.

    We got rid of the plus ones of our cousins unless they were married, that cut my guest list down 30 people! amazing! 

    I agree with others, invite who you want in the end it will be worth the extra couple hundred dollars, to me at least! 
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  • abt87abt87 member
    Sixth Anniversary 10 Comments 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    I was just talking to my mom about this. Again, if you send someone a save the date, you have to invite them, however, if you don't and make changes down the line, they are none the wiser (unless you verbally invited them).  Your friends don't dictate the wedding guests, you do. Don't let people push you around about "bad form".  It's bad form that they are telling you whom to invite, when it's your $$, not theirs. You're fine with not giving your close friends a guest, but you might want to leave a little cushion in your list if they get into a relationship down the line.

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  • akbrown19akbrown19
    100 Comments
    Agree with PPs about the save the dates. Just had a talk with my FMIL this weekend. She thinks its incredibly tacky to invite people without a date but that's how every wedding I have been to works for those not in a serious relationship. I think it isn't worth the extra money you have to pay to host a date of your friend (whom you have never met), AS LONG AS your friend has other people to hang out with all night. My close single friends know not to plan for a date until I can get a final count to know if there is room. Plus, if they haven't met someone by now, they are not likely to be in a serious relationship by the time of our wedding. Also, don't cave on he list because of pushy friends, like PPs said. It's your budget not theirs.
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  • Ashes_3Ashes_3 member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    It is bad form to not invite couples in relationships. Other than that,invite whom you want and don't let yourself be bullied into inviting friends of friends.
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