warning. super long. super super long. sorry. I just need to vent to neutral parties.
I swear, if one more person ask if they are invited to the wedding, I may scream.
I work in two offices (in a company with 27), each with 12 people. I've been there for 5 years, and have no plans on leaving til we have babies. (best case senerio 18-24 months) One office I invited only my immediate boss (its the two of us in the department since the day I started) and our printer (he is doing all our invites and such for free) The other office, I invited the doctors and two co-workers. They are the only ones I hang out with outside of work and talk to on a personsal level. Since we've gotten engaged, I've had numberous coworkers in both offices, and other offices call me, email, or fb me about being invited. Or, I'll get the... "i better get an invite to the wedding for doing this" comment. The best is... "you know I give awesome wedding gifts"
I've pretty much told everyone they werent invited. With the explaination that we are already over our intended 150 (we are now inviting 200), that FI and I are paying for everything, and would love to have everyone etc. Truth is, If I wanted you there..... um, would have invited you!
So on to my family. I come from a traditional Irish Catholic family. We are meant to make babies ha! I have 5 living aunts and uncles on my dad's side (he's the baby at 62!)8 on my moms. I have 37 first cousins. 42 second cousins. Do the math. Thats a lot. Thats not including spouses! So we didnt invite everyone. We didnt want to. I broke it down to inviting my aunts and uncles and a few cousins and their families. I'm not close to my mom's side of the family (she isnt) So i didnt invite any of those cousins. Since I moved out of state 5 years ago, I havent seen one, nor am I even FB friends with them. Why would I invite them?
My dad's side is different. My Aunt E is my godmother, and I want her there... so she needs he son to bring her. I invited ALL her children and their children (thats 28 people right there!) Plus my dad works with them. We see them everytime we visit, and talk often on FB. Totally different. I also invited my dad's brothers children. We go on vacation with them (they were there for the engagement) so yeah, obvious why they would be invited.
So my mom's side. My grandma is pissed noone on her side is invited, and i have cousins coming out on FB friend requesting and asking a million questions. Nice try to late!
My dad's side, one of the vacation cousins sent out a huge email trying to plan family vacation this year, and mentioned my wedding asking who was planning on going..... um, most werent invited....thanks a lot. So now I need to field emails and calls about when and where is the wedding and why people werent invited. There are some I want to invite, but I cant afford another 45 people at my wedding! Lie. I can afford, I just dont want to! I thought this was all clear from the beginning, but yeahhhh.
FI is getting the same thing. We have gotten Christmas gifts and letters from his family I never even heard of until we got stuff in the mail!
I know we are awesome, but damn!
/end vent.
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