NWR: Am I the one confused?

Re: NWR: Am I the one confused?

• ChiGirl2013 member

  

  November 2012

  If it was her idea, she should be the one providing the main dish.
  
  That being said, every potluck I've ever been to has been everyone bringing everything.  The host isn't in charge of the main course - people bring things like pasta with meatballs, stuffed shells, etc that can be used as a main dish.  The person in charge asks everyone what they're bringing so she can make sure to have a variety and not 50 bowls of potato salad.
  
  I can see if you did this monthly and rotated houses.  Then it would make sense for each person to supply the main dish at some point.  But to be honest, why bother with a potluck if you only have 3 people going?  The purpose of a potluck is variety, and you won't get that with just 3 people. 

  
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• orangehills

  

  November 2012

  I agree- should be her figuring everything out, not me, just because I said, well it can be at my house. There will be 6 people there. So yes- small for a potluck, but like I said- that's what I agreed to, not a dinner party I was supposed to host.

  
  

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• tiny speck member

  

  November 2012

  Yeah, that sounds ridiculous. I think you were right to cancel. If your friend wants to have a dinner party she should host it herself. It sounds like she has no clue what a potluck really is.

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• vk2204 member

  

  November 2012

  I guess I can see it from both sides. If someone just threw the idea out there, and you took it upon yourself to 'host' it, I probably would assume you would be making more of a main dish type. BUT, I would also not just bring bread. I wouldn't expect you to roast a pig or anything, but I would definitely keep the conversation going with a "hey what type of food do you guys want to make so we can have a general theme" and what not.
  

   

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• lcatterton member

  

  November 2012

  I see where you are coming from, but if you hosted, it makes sense for you to be the one to provide the most difficult dish to cook, since you can just pull it out of the oven and put it on the table. However, that DOES NOT MEAN that you have to cook "all day." There are plenty of main dishes that taste amazing that you could make in less than an hour.
  
  Now, that being said, although you should probably be the one to cook the main dish, they should definitely be bringing side dishes, not just bread or wine. Some type of rice, or veggies, green bean casserole, potato salad, etc.
  
  I think it was silly for her to ask to have a potluck and then turn around and say she didn't want to lug food around town. If that was the case, why did she not just say "Hey, I'm hosting a potluck! Wanna come?" Haha. Some people are silly.

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• orangehills

  

  November 2012

  I know! Well, the thing is I didn't agree to host it. I told her - ok you set it up and plan for it, you can just have it at my house- I didn't offer to host the thing. Because this was her idea, her thing. So that's why I was like, why am I supposed to cook? You bring a casserole or something! But yah. I canceled it, it's done. Ha!

  
  

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• allychase member

  

  November 2012

  Yeah this is why I don't let other people have parties at my house. If she wants to have a party, let her be the host and deal with cleaning up afterwards. Even if its technically her party, I'd still feel obligated to play host instead of sitting around in my own home.

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