To Keep... or Not to Keep

rojo0814 · May 2012

my boyfriend slipped that he's proposing -- and i can't wait till he does!!

i was married and still have my old wedding ring, it has 9 gorgeus diamonds (a 1 ct center diamond, other stones 0.40 ct ). I really love these diamonds, the ring and what it stood for don't mean a thing to me.

1. one of my friends suggested using the diamonds onto a new engagement and wedding band.
2. another friend suggested sell the ring and use the $$ money towards the wedding.
3. another friend suggested using the diamonds for another type of jewelry.

Your thoughts please and thank you everyone!

[Deleted User] · May 2012

i would say option 2 or 3 because although you have obviously found new love and happiness i wouldn't want to mix the old and the new and my own FI would definitely not like the idea although i don't know how yours would feel.

Unknown092113 · May 2012

I agree....option 2 or 3.

CowgirlUp515 · May 2012

I was previously engaged as well and I plan to sell the ring so I can have a little bit of extra money. The ring is beautiful, but its not doing me any good and I feel like it would be unfair to my FI to wear a ring (or diamond) that another guy gave me.
And the ring your BF gives you when he proposes will probably be just as beautiful and mean more to you because it came from him!

peachykeen26 · May 2012

I would probably sell it. If it means nothing to you, just give him the ring to sell.
Have him take it to a jeweler, NOT a pawn shop. You will get more that way.
OR, give him the ring and tell him these two options.

I know it was really important for FI to buy my center stone, so we did it together. He also bought my e-ring band.
It may be important to your BF to give you something from him and him only.
Just a thought.

dewingedpixie · May 2012

Do you have a daughter or son? I have a daughter from a prior marraige and I'm going to give her the wedding band and unset sapphire from my marraige to her father at the age of 18 I think.

Britt1893 · May 2012

I was never engaged, or married before but my ex-boyfriend gave me a ring, two rings actually. After we broke up, I buried my rings in my jewelry box. When I met my fiance', I threw all of the jewelry in the ocean. I would use the past in my future. Its just not...me.

calliopeia2013 · May 2012

If you love the diamonds, absolutely option one. Honestly, I think assigning that much meaning to a bunch of gemstones is silly and superstitious. Stuff like this has exactly as much symbolic meaning as you let it have.

blgrout · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_to-keep-or-not-to-keep?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:e345012f-8a2c-4a5d-83dd-c6ecb9a0b63dPost:27fdcdf1-8715-4973-a78a-0f7d6698ce72">Re: To Keep... or Not to Keep</a>:
[QUOTE]Do you have a daughter or son? I have a daughter from a prior marraige and I'm going to give her the wedding band and unset sapphire from my marraige to her father at the age of 18 I think.
Posted by dewingedpixie[/QUOTE]

I like this idea.

Or, if you don't have kids, the idea of asking your future FI what his opinion is. If he's not ok with it, then I'd look into selling it and using the $$ towards a new ring.

rojo0814 · May 2012

Thank you everyone for your wonderful responses.

I've decided to take the ring, sell it to a jeweler and use the money towards a wonderful honeymooon with my sweetheart.

Poppy101212 · May 2012

Sell it, take the cash and buy HIM something fabulous.
or
buy the sexiest lingere that you can find.

dewingedpixie · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_to-keep-or-not-to-keep?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:e345012f-8a2c-4a5d-83dd-c6ecb9a0b63dPost:442cb133-8720-4625-b78a-25d56be67e3b">Re: To Keep... or Not to Keep</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Keep... or Not to Keep : I like this idea. Or, if you don't have kids, the idea of asking your future FI what his opinion is. If he's not ok with it, then I'd look into selling it and using the $$ towards a new ring.
Posted by blgrout[/QUOTE]

Thank you :). I figure I may not work in a marraige with her father, but he is her daddy. I will always love him for being her father and giving me the most amazing gift of my life her. I am just not in love with him and we are not good married. I want her to have those pieces because she wont remember that marraige, but know that she was loved and thats why we tried was because of her. I think she should inherit those pieces because that relationship brought her into this world. I thank god for that relationship even though it failed everyday because of her.

Winnertag1 · May 2012

I would get the stones reset into a new ring or resell it, I wouldnt keep it as is and wear.

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