Wording

Re: Wording

• cschuma2 member

  

  April 2011 edited April 2011

  I wouldn't start out the marriage on the wrong foot with your FMIL.  What does your FI think?
  
  How about...
  
  Jane & John Doe
  request the honor of your presence
  at the marriage of their daughter
  Kristen Elizabeth
  to
  Michael Richard Smith
  son of
  Mary Smith
  date
  time
  place
  
  
  This doesn't look like she is the host, however it includes her on the invite. 

  

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2011

  Well, aside from some wording issues in what you've stated, it's rather traditional and there isn't anything rude about it. However if you think it may lead to hurt feelings then list the MOG as PP stated above.

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• tenofcups4me member

  

  April 2011

  "Son of" doesn't give any "credit" as a host, just notes that she's his mother.  Seems like the perfect solution.

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• tenofcups4me member

  

  April 2011

  It's not rude to not give parents a title. It's not traditional, sure, and it's not as formal, but no way is it rude. And are you really advocating she stick with the traditional format knowing it's going to piss off her FMIL? Nice way to start her married relationship.

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• tenofcups4me member

  

  April 2011

  Wow. You're a teacher, right? I'm sure you must understand the difference between fact and opinion.

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• Equine Osmosis member

  

  April 2011

  If you add FMIL, as pp have said, you may say something like:

  
  

  "son of Mrs. Jane and the late Mr. John Johnson"

  
  

  Although I don't know if you use Mr./Mrs. when someone is deceased.  But anyway, it gives the FILs the respect of being mentioned without credit for paying.

  

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• Jennifer102011

  

  April 2011

  When I did my invites, I pretty much had mine worded how you have it (with only my parents' names). Traditionally, the names of whoever is hosting is put on the invitation, hence the reason only my parents are listed. I might be rude or wrong, but I have more of a problem putting FI's parents names on the invite when they aren't contributing ANYTHING to the wedding.

  

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2011

  At 10:30 PM where am I? I'm either asleep or tending to a needy infant. CMGr, I don't know that it's rude to omit titles based on this link to Crane's: http://www.crane.com/etiquette/wedding/invitationalline?RPL

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• tenofcups4me member

  

  April 2011

  CMGR, what did you think was "settled"? Nothing is ever "settled" on a board where people are free to express their opinions. I was just surprised that you couch yours as fact. I'm not quite following why the call for a moderator.

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2011

  
  
  FWIW, I think a lot  (if not all ) of this is what the person prefers.  CMGr, you would find it quite rude if your daughter referred to you by your first name and without titles on her wedding invitation or in the program (I am not making any assumptions regarding who may be hosting her wedding).
  
  However some people are perfectly fine being referred to by their first name and I don't think they are rude to do so as long as it's with the understanding of all parties.

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2011

  It references that if a woman kept her maiden name then should she want to be listed on the invitation with her maiden name then no titles should be used. Since Crane's advises omitting titles in this situation, they cannot say that omitting titles is inappropriate.

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• CeceMHill

  

  April 2011

  Most wedding invitations do only have the brides parent's inviting, however the suggestion "Son of ..." is a good idea as well, but not necessary.

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