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Need name change advice...desperately!

fionnandlaurafionnandlaura member
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in North Carolina

I cannot decide what to do about my name change.  I'm not a big fan of my maiden name, but it frankly sounds awful with what will be my new last name.  I would prefer from that perspective to keep my middle name and drop my maiden.  The only thing that makes me think I should keep my maiden name in some form is that I have worked very hard at my career for the last 10 years and a lot of people say I have developed a good reputation with that name.  What should I do?  Go with my heart or my brain?

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  • pirategal03pirategal03 member
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    edited December 2011
    I had a hard time with this decision to.  Remember you can "go by" whatever name you like.  Your legal name doesn't have to match what you are called.

    You can be:
    First Middle Maiden
    First Maiden Married
    First Married Maiden (this is what our Governor did in order to keep the name she'd built a reputation for...well, technically she's First NewMarried OldMarried, but you know what I mean)
    First Middle Maiden Married

    Some people even come up with a combination of last names to be an entirely new name. 

    I have friends who kept First Middle Maiden legally, but still go by First Married socially.  You wouldn't know they didn't change their name unless they told you. 

    You really can do whatever you like.
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  • pirategal03pirategal03 member
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    edited December 2011
    TK won't let me edit...but I meant to list First Middle Married also.
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  • Flirt01Flirt01 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so glad that you posted this! I have been battling with what to do also....I have so many career things that would have to be changed and it would be a hassle. Plus I already went thru one name change when I was adopted. I love the idea of legally keeping my maiden name but socially going by my married name,
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  • YoungDuoYoungDuo member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm switching mine to First Maiden Married and I cant wait :)
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  • SCogs18SCogs18 member
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    edited December 2011
    Is it too much of a mouthful to do First Middle Maiden Married and just have "middle" and "maiden" as two middle names?
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  • NcsuPsychNcsuPsych member
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    edited December 2011
    Scogs, I wish I had done my name that way. I did ' First Middle Maiden-Married'. That hypenation is a pain in the rear. I go by First Married, but when I sign things, I have to do the full last name.

    Maybe eventually I'll switch it. Overall though, I don't think it's a mouthful. I know plenty of people that have had their names switched like that and its completely fine :)
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  • pirategal03pirategal03 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_north-carolina_need-name-change-advicedesperately?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:115Discussion:c5836231-f7ba-40c7-959c-9944e360ae86Post:514af300-44d8-4620-a48f-5a9649c67b53">Re: Need name change advice...desperately!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Is it too much of a mouthful to do First Middle Maiden Married and just have "middle" and "maiden" as two middle names?
    Posted by SCogs18[/QUOTE]

    This is what I did to avoid the two last names confusion and to avoid dropping a name that was important to me. 

    I thought about a hyphen but I don't actually know what to do with hyphenated last names so I figured that I shouldn't have a name I didn't know how to deal with. 
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  • pirategal03pirategal03 member
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    edited December 2011
    And ETA: (dang it Knot, fix the edit button!)

    I don't think it matters if it's a mouthful.  You probably won't use your middle name(s) any more than you do currently.  I don't even initial things with all 4, just 2.  I seldom say my middle or maiden names. 
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  • wolfpackpeachwolfpackpeach member
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    just found this after a google search, and boy did it help! thanks y'all!

    my issue is i really like my first and middle names and after losing my dad when i was 15 i want to keep my maiden name too but still take my fiance's last name too. glad to hear so many ppl are going the 4 names no hyphen route :-D
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