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Wanting to push back date

Heather2256Heather2256
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Ok, I just recently got engaged and we set a date for October 30, 2011. Which I've been fine with until today. I got to talking to my family about it & everything that's involved. Which I already knew everything but I don't think it had quite hit me (especially once I found out my FI is wanting to invite way more people than I had originally thought). So, between the planning and being broke, it does make sense to push back the date, say to the beginning of next year, right? I know it does I just sort of need it confirmed & needed to let all this out! Also, I'm the one that said I wanted the wedding to be this year b/c I didn't want to wait how long. But now I'm just so stressed out I feel like an ulcer is forming or something.

Plus the only way we'd be able to afford to pay for anything soon (like my dress or a place for the reception, ya know, things that need to be bought ASAP or pretty darn close to it) is by my parents paying. And they're both broke & hate having them help me financially. My mom said she would help with what she can but I know she doesn't have much & the look in her eyes says she doesn't have much. I know my dad doesn't have much either - he kept on mentioning a pitch-in reception! And my FI has it in his head that the bride's family is who pays for the wedding! So, yeah.
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Re: Wanting to push back date

  • VRLVRL
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    edited December 2011
    Gong into debt for my wedding was one of my worst fears - so when I got engaged in June, 2010, I knew I'd be having a two year engagement so I could save to afford the wedding I wanted to have.

    Don't let financial stress take away from your wedding. Take the time you need to afford the vendors, venue and guest list that you want.

    You will enjoy the planning process a lot more if you're not constantly having to make sacrifices because of budget.

    In the long run, you won't be any less married if you have the wedding this year or next. So wait to have your wedding and save yourself the stress and financial worry.

    And congrats on your engagement!
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  • McKenna2012McKenna2012 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto VRL. You should not have the wedding until you can afford it. You don't want to start your lives together in debt.
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  • sister2groomsister2groom
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    edited December 2011
    If your parents can't/don't want to help you, obviously you shouldn't pressure them to do so. In fact, you shouldn't ask them for help, they can offer it. If you have to push it back, that's fine, it isn't hard to do sinceyou haven't booked anything (actually it's kind of impossibl;e to set a date in stone until you have tried to book things anyhow).
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