moh pregnancy

grueja07 · November 2012

I have two really great friends and both are my maid of honor. I recently found out the one I was going to have stand next to me is going to be 8 months pregnant on our big day. Would it be ok for me to switch the other maid of honor? I don't want the pregnant one to feel overwhelmed and who knows if she will be able to bend over and help me with my dress and stuff. But I also don't want her to feel bad.

Maggie0829 · November 2012

Leave everything the way it is. Whether pregnant or not she is still your MOH and she should not be demoted just because you think she will be overwhelmed. Let her still stand next to you (or sit depending on how she is feeling that day). If your dress needs fixing I am sure your other MOH and/or BMs can certainly fix it. Honestly the dress thing is such a small insignificant detail it really isn't even worth discussing with your BMs.

The only way your MOH will feel bad is if you demote her because she is pregnant. She will not only feel bad she will also probably not be your friend anymore.

The only thing your wedding party members need to do is buy the designated attire and show up on your wedding day looking presentable and sober. Period. Anything else is gravy.

cwaggoner07 · November 2012

Give her the opportunity to bow out if she wants, but honestly, I think 8 months to be a BM is fine. Ultimately it is HER call to drop out and NOT your call to demote her.

StephJean83 · November 2012

Is she wanting her to bow out or just switch the location of who stands where? If it is just a matter of who stands where, maybe deal with that at the rehearsal. If you want to kick her out or demote from MOH to BM, that is a friendship ending move. If she feels that bending to adjust your dress would be too much, she can step aside while the other MOH or BM adjusts the train NBD.

EireAbu · November 2012

Hmmm I'm sure your Moh will let you know if she's feeling overwhelmed. How about focusing on keeping her comfortable on the day. Have a seat ready for her, make sure her dress is comfy, and that she's in the shade or somewhere cool if its hot. Don't ask her to step down. That's lousy. Ps Congrats to your MOH!

QueerFemme · November 2012

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[QUOTE]I have two really great friends and both are my maid of honor. I recently found out the one I was going to have stand next to me is going to be 8 months pregnant on our big day. Would it be ok for me to switch the other maid of honor? I don't want the pregnant one to feel overwhelmed and who knows if she will be able to bend over and help me with my dress and stuff. But I also don't want her to feel bad.
Posted by grueja07[/QUOTE]

Agree with everyone else. Leave it the way it is. Everyone will be falling over themselves to help you. If you need help with your dress. Parents, friends, wedding party, etc. If you need someone fluff your dress, I'm sure someone will help you.

You pick your MOH as your nearest and dearest. A pregnancy shouldn't change that.

stantokm · November 2012

I'm pretty sure that the OP means that she wants to fix the standing order, not demote the pregnant MOH. I have two MOHs, too, and it matters who is the one standing directly next to me (my cousin will instead of my best friend). If she were pregnant, I'd still have her by my side (if she was comfortable with it).

A t the rehearsal, say something like, "Hmm...maybe MOH #2 will need to help you out with the train fixing." If MOH #1 suggests that they switch places to make it easier, that's fine. If which one of them stands next to you doesn't matter (if you're equally close to both of them) and you haven't TOLD either one of them the order you want, just switch them.

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