This is more out of curiosity than anything else...but I've been reading a lot of posts on here where people think it is rude to ask for money or contributions to honeymoon. I'm not sure i understand how it is any different than registering? If you are registering you are asking for particular gifts, just as someone who is requesting money. I decided not to register or indicate to people i wanted money because I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea of suggesting to people what they should gift us. Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to call everyone who registers rude I appreciate registries when I'm shopping for someone's gift but can someone explain why suggesting, say, a particular cookset as a gift is acceptable, but suggesting cash or a gift card is, hands down, a big nono. I know a couple of our guests were frustrated we didnt register, but i just couldn't wrap my head around the idea of suggesting gifts for people to buy me, cash or otherwise. Just trying to understand don't hate :
Re: Gift etiquette
[QUOTE]I've had a couple of friends register for cash, and it always felt odd to me though I couldn't articulate why. They are a young couple starting out that could use some cash. Well, great, so are we! Redistributing cash among ourselves just seems pointless.
Posted by Xstatic3333[/QUOTE]
<div>Amen. One year, we gave a Walmart gift card to a cousin and her husband for Christmas, and they gave us the same thing, same amount. Pointless. We agreed to no gift cards for Christmas after that. </div>
[QUOTE]This is more out of curiosity than anything else...but I've been reading a lot of posts on here where people think it is rude to ask for money or contributions to honeymoon. I'm not sure i understand how it is any different than registering? If you are registering you are asking for particular gifts, just as someone who is requesting money. I decided not to register or indicate to people i wanted money because I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea of suggesting to people what they should gift us. Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to call everyone who registers rude I appreciate registries when I'm shopping for someone's gift but can someone explain why suggesting, say, a particular cookset as a gift is acceptable, but suggesting cash or a gift card is, hands down, a big nono. I know a couple of our guests were frustrated we didnt register, but i just couldn't wrap my head around the idea of suggesting gifts for people to buy me, cash or otherwise. Just trying to understand don't hate :
Posted by LQ82[/QUOTE]
A registry is just a suggestion of ideas. No one is obligated to get from it or obligated to even get a gift at all.
What I think rubs me the wrong way about cash is that it doesn't necessarily have to be used or will be used in the fashion you as a guest are told it would be used for. While I do believe msot people will use their money for the honeymoon, some brides may have a honeyfund registry and her guests think she will use it for her honeymoon and then she insteads uses it to buy a new bag or shoes for herself. I think guests want to give you seomthing tangible that they know you want, will use and what it will be used for.
[QUOTE]This is more out of curiosity than anything else...but I've been reading a lot of posts on here where people think it is rude to ask for money or contributions to honeymoon. I'm not sure i understand how it is any different than registering?
Posted by LQ82[/QUOTE]
I would look to the etiquette expert. There are way too many personal opinions on this topic :)
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