We are having a DW. We invited our closest friends and family to come along with us and have decided that outside of the ceremony and reception there, we will not be having a reception at home and I did not want a shower. Our parents will be having a series of smaller cookouts for friends and family that couldn't make it and we're both having our own seperate bach parties. When we decided to do away with the reception, I decided to drop the shower because, I don't believe it's polite to invite people to the shower that weren't invited to the wedding. Not only that but I feel that I'm asking too much out of my BM's, parents, and attendees of the DW by asking them to pay for a shower and bring me gifts when I'm already asking them to travel out of the country. My family is spread out accross the country and his is very small. I estimated that there would be about 5-10 people who show up at the shower that won't be showing up at the wedding. We have owned a house together for 4 years. I am getting pressure from some BM's and parents to have a shower. Am I crazy for not wanting one?!?!
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