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Invitation wording - No children please

Bre2BeBre2Be
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Hi ladies,

I have been MIA a bit on here.  Been super busy!  My mom and I took the day off on Friday and I went to Jon's Bridal to see MY dress for the first time!  It was even more beautiful than I remember!  I am so happy!  My mom found her dress too and bought it off the rack at Dillards so no 4 month waiting period!  YIPPEE!
I also made a mock centerpiece with some silk carnations, feahters, floralytes, and a mirror which turned out pretty sweet.  I think that might be my next project.  I also got about 3/4 of the way finished on my custom monogram aisle runner.  It is turning out beautifully.  I will try and take pics tonight of everything.

Now on to my question...we want to have a child-free wedding ceremony and reception.  I had an awful nightmare the other night that there were hundreds of screaming kids running around our wedding!  My FI and I LOVE kids and cannot wait to have a large family of our own.  However, we really want this to be an adults only occassion.  For those of you who also chose this option, how did you word this in your invites??  I think I must be over-thinking this. 
Any advice is apprecaited!  TIA!
Brooke + Chavis
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  • TTnolesTTnoles
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't put it on your invites.  If you have a website people can reference things at I would put it onthere.  Also,just make sure to follow etiquette guidelines when addressing the invitations so people don't assume.  I would also ask relative to help spread the word.  HTH!
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  • ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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    edited December 2011
    Are you doing a separate card/insert for the reception info? Maybe there you could simply call it an "Adult Reception". 
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  • moonstone523moonstone523
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    edited December 2011
    I am with you on no kids, but I think it is totally tacky to put that on the invites.  I would consider it a word of mouth thing, and perhaps advertise that you would have a babysitter for those who need to bring kids on the night of the weddign on your website.
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  • Melis1273Melis1273
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    edited December 2011

    I agree with Tara and Carolyn to not include it in the invitations.  We are in the same situation and relied on word of mouth and/or just straight out saying that while we love children this is an adult evening.  Everyone was onboard and looking forward to a night without the children!

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  • Christinab22Christinab22 member
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    edited December 2011
    My friend included it on her invitations. I don't remember the exact wording, but after the ceremony info it said, "Adult reception to follow"

    I didn't think it was tacky, but that's your call to make.
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  • wendyjoy182wendyjoy182
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    edited December 2011
    I think if you have an insert with reception information you could say adult rception to follow or even a small sentence at the end of the invite is fine n my book.  It's about you and your FI if you don't want kids there just say so.  My opinion=) GL
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  • NicoleB331NicoleB331 member
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    edited December 2011
    From what I've read online you should not say adult only reception. Typically the inner invitation envelope will address who's invited to the wedding. We are not doing any kids at our reception either other than my FI's brother/sister. Basically I just have spread the word that it is an adult only wedding. Most people are understanding and do not have a problem with it.
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  • mrspanzicamrspanzica
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_invitation-wording-children-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:62Discussion:e38adb5b-c9dd-45a8-938b-6831bf6dd1a6Post:1306cf1d-12db-479d-9add-8ac78857c9a2">Re: Invitation wording - No children please</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's about you and your FI if you don't want kids there just say so.  My opinion=) GL
    Posted by wendyjoy182[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this.  I wouldn't get too caught up in all the etiquette stuff.  Some of it is just too old fashion and stuffy.  For example, I always hear it's not "proper" to put registration info in your invites, but just about every wedding invitation I've gotten in the last five years has had an insert with where the couple is registered.  It makes it easier, in my opinion, to know exactly where the couple registered.  In the case of "Adult Reception", it would make me aware of exactly what I would need to plan to do with my kids.  Don't over think it.  Most people who receive your invites probably won't think twice about it being "proper etiquette."  :) 
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    edited December 2011
    On insert card:

    A free Children's Room will be provided at the ceremony location and at the reception venue to take care of all children under 12.  An usher will greet you at both locations, and escort you and any children under 12 to the Children's Room.  Four elementary school teachers have agreed to provide age-appropriate activities for the children, and the reception venue has created a special Children's Meal which will be served in the Children's Room.
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  • moonstone523moonstone523
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_invitation-wording-children-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:62Discussion:e38adb5b-c9dd-45a8-938b-6831bf6dd1a6Post:b6cbb640-a377-45d3-83f7-42c9e8fc8b2c">Re: Invitation wording - No children please</a>:
    [QUOTE]On insert card: A free Children's Room will be provided at the ceremony location and at the reception venue to take care of all children under 12.  An usher will greet you at both locations, and escort you and any children under 12 to the Children's Room.  Four elementary school teachers have agreed to provide age-appropriate activities for the children, and the reception venue has created a special Children's Meal which will be served in the Children's Room.
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    This is worse than putting "adult reception to follow" IMO.
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  • cmeyer3946cmeyer3946 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with previous posts.  I have put a FAQ section on my website and word of mouth is going to have to do.  I will allow children at the wedding and dinner (5&under eat free) but after dinner, it's party time and I don't even want my brother's kids who are in the wedding there but it's a little weird to put them on the invites.

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  • rockybiogrlrockybiogrl member
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    edited December 2011
    I appreciate the info regarding children - our ceremony/reception venue only holds 120 total people and there is no where to have a childs room so my fiance and I are hoping to allow all out of town guests the opportunity to bring their children (we have a lot of guests who will be coming from out of state) but we want to ask guests that live here in town tol leave their kids with a sitter - how might we word this in the invitations?  Do we need to create two seperate invitations, one with kids, one without?  It will not really be an "adult only reception" so I dont want people to expect that....   is there a fancy way to say "out of town children only"?  Thank you! 
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