He's turning 21 in July. His friends keep alluding to a night of drinks and parties. He doesn't want to do that. I mean, prior to meeting me he was a social/party drinker - I've heard plenty of stories - but over the last year and a half he's stopped drinking all on his own without any prodding from me. Just two weeks ago he was telling me that he wanted ME to tell his friends that he wasn't going to drink. I refused, because if I was the one to tell them that, they'd ignore it and say that I was the mean bitchy fiance who wouldn't "let" him go out and party. I told him that he had to tell his friends himself, and if they didn't want to listen, then he had to stand his ground, because they wouldn't respect it from me.
This afternoon he took me to go play with reptilian things that I'm not allowed to have till I move out of my mom's home (I was bored and wanted to get out of the house for a little while). While we were there he got a phone call from a friend. I only heard his half of the conversation, but it turned to plans for his birthday and he had to tell the friend a couple times that he didn't want to go get wasted. His exact words the last time he said no were, "You know, dude, I don't think that a person's 21st birthday should be about going and getting trashed and not remembering anything the next day. A 21st birthday should be about becoming an adult and taking on mature responsibilities."
I had been sitting on the floor watching a snake follow my finger through the glass (waiting for the shopkeeper to unlock the cage lid) when I heard him say that, and I looked up at him and just stared with a smile on my face. Not to say that I didn't think he had it in him, but it made me SO very proud to hear him say something like that out loud.
