I'm not the bride (med student question)

Re: I'm not the bride (med student question)

• FaithCaitlin member

  

  March 2012

  These are totally personal decisions that you and your GF need to determine together. I'd first work on the proposal-- do you want to propose before or after medical school? Everything else can wait or be figured out!

  
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• laurmd

  

  March 2012

  I'm graduating from medical school in a few months and we are getting married next month. ALthough FI is not a med student, there are several class couples who are getting married in the next few months (no extra income).
  
  I worked for a year prior to med school so I had some savings, my parents are contributing for half of the wedding, and FI is paying for the honeymoon. We are also trying to buy a house and are able to put 20% down. Lots of money but if you budget wisely and save where you can, it is definitely possible.
  
  As far as timing goes, that is entirely up to you. Why not get engaged now and plan for a long engagement? Once its official, both of your parents may be more forthcoming about contributing financially (but never count on any one to pay except for yourselves). Also, only spend what you can afford. Personally I think it stupid to go into debt for a wedding, so don't take out more loans.
  
  I know you said you want to have a traditional Hindu wedding, but when it comes down to it, you guys will have to talk together to see if that is at all feasible. Think about a wedding in PA or NJ if NY is too expensive as well. I don't know the price difference, but it could help a bit. Good luck!

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• LDHR member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_im-not-the-bride-med-student-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:684Discussion:d16397d0-7e4f-477a-81c5-29677ce53492Post:df40056b-360b-4762-8d68-cc6e9f5dfd21">Re: I'm not the bride (med student question)</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm graduating from medical school in a few months and we are getting married next month...Why not get engaged now and plan for a long engagement? Once its official, both of your parents may be more forthcoming about contributing financially (but never count on any one to pay except for yourselves)[TRUE]. Also, only spend what you can afford.[SMART] Personally I think it stupid to go into debt for a wedding, so don't take out more loans.[SMART] I know you said you want to have a traditional Hindu wedding, but when it comes down to it, you guys will have to talk together to see if that is at all feasible. Think about a wedding in PA or NJ if NY is too expensive as well.[GREAT IDEA] ...Good luck!<div>Posted by laurmd[/QUOTE]</div><div>
  </div><div>Congrats!  I hope your day is just as you picture it & bravo on making it through med school.  Also best of luck with your new home to be.</div><div>
  </div><div>I definitely see that this time I have before starting med school calls for a serious $ hustle.
  
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  </div><div>I absolutely love the idea of a long engagement but with me leaving in 5 months & being essentially gone for 2 years overseas seems super unfulfilling.  Or I guess it could work the other way around.  I guess it would seem like a rushed or maybe (tiny bit) shady to "put a rock on it" & disappear.  </div><div>
  </div><div>I really appreciate everyone's help bc it seems like I am narrowing down to better, thought-out choices!</div>

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• niknar90210 member

  

  March 2012

  I am currently studying Laboratory medicine and my fiance studies surgery, 

  
  

  i am in india and he is in malaysia but to answer your 'do med students work part time in 3'rd -4th year' i think you should check your curriculum. My fi and i are unable to do so the work load is hectic and plus we have to complete hours in the hospital. there is no time at all for working. check your curriculum(you can easily ask the university to send you the whole course structure)  and find out if your work load is lighter in 4th year and see if you have any 'clinical postings' usually that is what its termed as. and then you can have a better idea on whether or not you can work part time

  
  

  i hope it helps

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• niknar90210 member

  

  March 2012

  Also some courses actually pay you for the work, mine does but for my fiance he doesnt get paid for his clinical rotations.

  
  

  As for who pays for med student weddings. i am not sure if in the states you have this but i think you might, i put about 1000 us dollars in the bank as a fixed deposit and what happens is for the next five years i cant take it out, the bank invests it and when i'm done i should have about 5 thousand us dollars, or something, it accumulates a ton of interest or something i have no idea, ask your bank if they have anything like this.

  
  

  Another thing is, alot of our seniors getting married actually take out a loan/mortgage for the wedding... 

  another route you can take but usually we cant really work part time

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