BRIDESMAIDS!

dontemccauley · October 2012

What do you expect from your bridesmaid and maid of honor???

rowenac82 · October 2012

I expected mine to buy their dresses and shoes and pay for make-up if they agreed to having it professionally done. Then I just expected them to show up on time for wedding events.

footballwife77 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]I expected mine to buy their dresses and shoes and pay for make-up if they agreed to having it professionally done. Then I just expected them to show up on time for wedding events.
Posted by rowenac82[/QUOTE]

THIS. but apparently that's even asking for too much.

rowenac82 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: BRIDESMAIDS! : THIS. but apparently that's even asking for too much.
Posted by footballwife77[/QUOTE]

<div>LOL! I guess I should say in a "timely" fashion that's the hard part...</div>

ladycane015 · October 2012

lol. agree w/ pp. that is ultimately what i expected & boy has it been quite a task lol... I will say I also kinda thought that someone would come w/ me to my fitting but that was wishful thinking so I prolly wont have any pix from the fitting Friday

YAY!!! -_-

rowenac82 · October 2012

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[QUOTE]lol. agree w/ pp. that is ultimately what i expected & boy has it been quite a task lol... I will say I also kinda thought that someone would come w/ me to my fitting but that was wishful thinking so I prolly wont have any pix from the fitting Friday :D YAY!!! -_-
Posted by ladycane015[/QUOTE]

<div>It doesn't hurt to ask but as you said you don't expect it of them so no matter their response you should be ok with it. </div>

nursing2u · October 2012

I totally agree with tash....I want them to get dresses and I THINK I am giving them a lot of time to do this... but it seems as if I am talking to a brick wall... I have to realize that they may not be as "right now" like I am...

Soooo.. the verdict is still out.. I have everything else covered or I have other peeps.. (clear my throat)...my aaw friends..to help me figure things out..

[Deleted User] · October 2012

agree with everybody else. the part where it gets weird for me is these are women who (ordinarily) in your life will do really small things without being asked to, you know? so when you get a bunch of questions about what now NEEDS to happen, you're like wait, what? you're the same sweetheart who brought me turkey soup when nobody knew I was sick, what do you MEAN do you have to wear that? what a chore. sit, have tea *cough* vodka and crumpets *cough* hotwings, say what you'd like her/them to do, ask for comfort levels about timeline and budget and then realize you've done all you can donnie mcclurkin. easier said than done but who really has the time to run down grown azz women?

I never get this. mari, what are they saying?

MrsBad13 · October 2012

I expect them to buy their dresses and shoes, be on time when events come up. Be available when its a must ! Only one bought their dress MOH im still waiting...slience...no call or txt sayin hey I order my dress !

keyaira04 · October 2012

I expect my BMs to buy the dress, there there the pray of and positively support our marriage.

MOHs, same as above, but I do ask them for idea/ thoughts, as one is already married.

dontemccauley · October 2012

Great ladies my thoughts exactly!

nursing2u · October 2012

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[QUOTE]agree with everybody else. the part where it gets weird for me is these are women who (ordinarily) in your life will do really small things without being asked to, you know? so when you get a bunch of questions about what now NEEDS to happen, you're like wait, what? you're the same sweetheart who brought me turkey soup when nobody knew I was sick, what do you MEAN do you have to wear that? what a chore. sit, have tea *cough* vodka and crumpets *cough* hotwings, say what you'd like her/them to do, ask for comfort levels about timeline and budget and then realize you've done all you can donnie mcclurkin. easier said than done but who really has the time to run down grown azz women? I never get this. <strong>mari, what are they saying ?
</strong>Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

I have been trying to get them to look at dresses since JULY.. yeah it's OCTOBER.. first it was:
1. ohhh girl u know it's the summer and the kids are home, so it's hard to get out to look at dresses.. I know you dont want them with us at the store (NO I DIDNT)
2. girl... I have been soo busy.. I haven't been keeping up with anybody.. (girl..u update your facebook every single day)..
3. )MOH) lives in Texas.. girl.. you know i am always working(flight attendant..and true).. and I do need to get up there to get with you.. (she came up a few weekends ago..and i never saw her..)
I finally picked out the dress.. (my daughter is a BM and I picked what would look best on her).. I knew they other two would like short and strapless..lol..

They finally tried the dresses on... BUT can I get them to order the dresses?!?!?!?!??!

its been a month.. and I cant get them to put a deposit down to order the dress.. i even got a discount for them because they are ordering it from where I got my dress..

I feel like I am pulling teeth.. They seemed like they were sooo excited for us.. and to me if they would just do this and get it done... IT WOULD BE DONE..

Then when it comes to shoes... LORD... I am like.. just let me see what you are deciding on and then we can go from there..

The MOH AND the other BM dont want to dress alike.. never met each other... but definitely dont like each other... I just laugh at it..lol

They know I am sweet and all that... BUT ... they also know I can get a bit Nasty as well... So we shall see what they are gonna do...

Im glad I haven't even asked them anything about the wedding details.. I got all that covered.. without them

[Deleted User] · October 2012

I'll say it again. I don't know how ya'll are managing your patience. as reasons go, 1-3 may be perfectly legitimate, but they're also dumb as a box of hair. I'm sure they are happy for you and just as sure that has nothing to do with the feet dragging. we should come up with some language for a *warning* email reminder, something like: hi girls, this is my pre-trippin note. please be advised that any correspondence henceforth regarding this same subject will occur with a significant loss of diplomacy. you can deal with mari or you can deal with mari'quanasia, your call either wh'ay. please get your dress. 'ppreciatcha. me.

next stop: best rsvp response you've ever heard.

lawd.

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