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Co-Worker Drama (Vent, need Advice!)

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A co-worker invited herself to my wedding when she found out I was engaged. I didn't announce it at work because I knew it would be awkward when it came down to the guest list. Anyways, the cat was let out the bag.

Well FI and I was planning this big wedding and we both got so frustrated (with our families and costs) that we decided on Vegas (FI's fave place in the world). We are only inviting our immediate family and our best friends (30 ppl tops).

This decision was made 2 months ago and I still have not told my co-worker. She keeps bringing it up and I don't know what to say to her. To be honest, I think it's more that I don't want to hear her unsolicited advice (which she gives on a daily basis already) than it is breaking her heart.

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  • RebCapponRebCappon
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    I would just avoid her at all costs, or if she insists on bringing it up just say "with doing an OOT wedding we had to keep the guest list down" and leave it at that. When she doesn't get her invite she'll get the hint.

    It still amazes me though how people just assume that they will be invited, so annoying.
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  • turtlesloveturtleslove
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_co-worker-drama-vent-need-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:707e6745-2621-4f01-a7bd-5fbae43a34b3Post:6e1597fe-268b-48d3-a2fb-182c20c8a7a9">Re: Co-Worker Drama (Vent, need Advice!)</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would just avoid her at all costs, or if she insists on bringing it up just say "with doing an OOT wedding we had to keep the guest list down" and leave it at that. When she doesn't get her invite she'll get the hint. It still amazes me though how people just assume that they will be invited, so annoying.
    Posted by RebCappon[/QUOTE]

    This^^  Tell her now, it might make her shut up for a minute. Then if she starts telling you what to do, just say "my FI and I have lready taken care of all the details and plans. It's all figured out." Who cares if it isnt?
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  • mymissingpuzzlepiecemymissingpuzzlepiece
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    I honestly wish that FI and I could only have 20 person wedding, really! So good for you, it will be so much easier. In regards to your annoying ass coworker, you should confront her as soon as possible. Just get it out of the way because there is no use in stressing over something like that when you have more important things to worry about. If she has something to say, just tell her, "Thank you for your advice but FI and I have it all figured out" and just walk away.

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    Thanks guys, I'll wait until the next time she brings it up which will probably be tomorrow LoL
    Oh-she even had the nerve to say "Oh I saw you looking at hats (which were actually birdcage veils) and I wanted to say I liked those but not in black!"

    Umm yea our colors are red, black and white. Since she was being all nosey she would have seen it was black and red. As a matter of fact, here's a link: http://www.etsy.com/listing/75610779/black-vintage-fascinator-feather

    Plus it was like 2 weeks ago when I even looked at it and she mentioned it yesterday. I just smiled and said "Ok, thanks!" WTH
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  • turtlesloveturtleslove
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    That is gorgeous! Love it!!
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    Wow, she has balls.

    I agree with confronting her in some way. It's perfectly okay to say that you're keeping the guest list to family and you don't need to say anything else. I'd perfect the art of beandipping around her, also I'd let any other coworkers know (if you're inviting any of them) to not share info with her either. What she's doing is completely out of line, and you don't need to justify her rude behavior.
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  • mymissingpuzzlepiecemymissingpuzzlepiece
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_co-worker-drama-vent-need-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:707e6745-2621-4f01-a7bd-5fbae43a34b3Post:896a1a53-dacb-436a-90ee-55b661d1f316">Re: Co-Worker Drama (Vent, need Advice!)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks guys, I'll wait until the next time she brings it up which will probably be tomorrow LoL Oh-she even had the nerve to say <strong>"Oh I saw you looking at hats (which were actually birdcage veils)</strong> and I wanted to say I liked those but not in black!" Umm yea our colors are red, black and white. Since she was being all nosey she would have seen it was black and red. As a matter of fact, here's a link: <a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/75610779/black-vintage-fascinator-feather" rel="nofollow">http://www.etsy.com/listing/75610779/black-vintage-fascinator-feather</a> Plus it was like 2 weeks ago when I even looked at it and she mentioned it yesterday. I just smiled and said "Ok, thanks!" WTH
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  • mrsthieltobemrsthieltobe
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    I say you just tell her. If she is a good friend co-worker she will understand that it's your wedding and your day to celebrate. You can't please everyone. As we have made our cut off of 150 i have realized you can't invite everyone and yes some people feelings might be hurt but you have to do what's best for you and you FI.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Thanks ladies, will keep you updated.
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