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Personal vows???

kayla2536kayla2536 member
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My fiance and I just met with a justice of the peace and he is a big advocate of personal vows. We were leaning that way originally but we also want to keep the ceremony short and sweet. Right now it's MUCH lengthier than we originally wanted, so lots of edits to be made (we still have plenty of time though, no big deal). 

But, back to the personal vows. We want our wedding to be a reflection of our personalities and who we are and keep it unique. We were thinking personal vows but at the same time we are very lovey and romantic and mushy...in private. Not at all around others. So we have changed our minds a bit. 

Instead we were thinking of writing each other letters that we exchange the day of the ceremony (without seeing each other!) and then going with other vows. 

Suggestions? Ideas? Advice?
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Re: Personal vows???

  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    We went with traditional vows because they pretty much say it all.   I dislike when people write their own vows and try to be cute and "unique."  Usually it just turns into the couple declaring their love for each other, and not making lifelong promises.  Of if they do make promises, it's stupid stuff like "I promise to let you have the remote" or something else completely inappropriate for the wedding.   There are a lot of variations on traditional vows, some are more modern than others, but they all pretty much say the same thing -- that you promise to love the other person when life is good and when life sucks, for the rest of your lives.   

    I think writing each other personal letters to share in private on your wedding day is a great idea.  My husband and I did something similar.   
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    edited December 2012
    I agree with Avion 100%.

    I've heard "vows" that weren't even vows.  It was just one big long story that had kinda no point and didn't promise the other person a thing.  I kept thinking "what is this?"  My husband and I used the traditional vows that have been used for centuries.  I found the bond to history and the words I said to be more powerful than anything I could have written.

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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    edited December 2012

    We wrote our own vows, but we were very careful to make sure there were promises in there, in addition to the "omg, I love you so much".  When we first started talking about writing our own vows, we were struggling and we both said "this sounds like more of a story, and not enough promising and vowing". But we kept at it, and it came out beautifully.

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    Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

    http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/

    http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html

    http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/

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