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January 2012 Weddings

FMIL vent (again)

You know I feel like I've been venting about FMIL alot lately. I really wish I didnt have too but the woman is driving me insane!

I found out last night that she still really isnt talking much to FI (since the whole rehearsal dinner invitee issue) still and that FI's best friend (who is almost a 2nd son to FIs mom) said that FMIIL told him that she feels we are using her for the money!!!! That made me so mad! She is the one who offered to let us borrow the money, not once did we ask her for any.

So now I have to find a way to get 4k in the next to month because I absolutely refuse to borrow any more money from her. I'm not playing her game anymore, it is beyond childish.

Fi says to just ignore that behavior, I say she needs to be called out on it because it is not acceptable.
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Re: FMIL vent (again)

  • Right there with you A!  I would suggest taking the money and using it for the wedding.  I would then pay it back including interest and have a smug smile on your face when you do. KILL HER WITH KINDNESS~

    The only reason I am saying not to call her out is for your sanity.  You don't need the extra stress on top of grad school, hw, wedding, and 2 jobs.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_january-2012-weddings_fmil-vent-again?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:5a1804e7-e8c8-4829-9e61-b9d49f3a9b5fDiscussion:6d80eac3-e828-430f-bf7b-5a1226b0720dPost:b1bbcaa1-51bb-4041-b272-d237514b04fb">Re: FMIL vent (again)</a>:
    [QUOTE]The only reason I am saying not to call her out is for your sanity.  You don't need the extra stress on top of grad school, hw, wedding, and 2 jobs.
    Posted by hippolover[/QUOTE]

    I'm the first to jump on the call her out on it, but Jen is right.  It would just add to the stress/drama.
  • We plan on paying her back the 3k she has alreayd loaned us with out tax returns. She had a 2 year payment planned lined up for us but thats just not going to fly with me lol,

    Luckily I really dont talk to her much at all. WE have to figure out a few more things for the rehersal dinner and I plan on having my mom there when we do that. I really dont trust myself to be around FMIL and not say anything to her. Sealed

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  • I agree with Jen, take the money like you originally planned.  It might be too hard to come up with 4k at the drop of a hat. Just try your best to ingore her. Sorry you have to deal with a terrible FMIL. 
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  • I would do as others say, especially Jen. GIve her that smile when you return the money! Be the nice one, and you will win.
  • Ditto everyone else.  Although I am right there with you on your frustrations.  That's why I'm so happy we've found a way to pay for everything ourselves.  I would have borrowed from the bank before my parents only because I know I'd end up in a similar situation. 

    Hope you can make it all work out. 
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  • Vent away honey.  This situation sucks but if I were in your position, me and FI would pick up Saturday and Sunday work and NOT take another penny from FMIL that way when she began to b*tch you could tell her where to go!... Hope things get better for you.  Weddings really bring out the ugly in people.  It's sad.
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