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XP: Feeling awkward about money

lizzywizlizzywiz
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My bridesmaids and I agreed on ordering their dresses online.  The dresses are coming from out of the country and take a long time to be made, shipped, etc.  so a couple months ago we decided a deadline of June 30th for them to give me money so I could order them.  I still haven't received money from two bridesmaids.  I sent them reminders a few days before the 30th, but they never responded.  Money is such an awkward thing and I HATE asking for it.  What's the most polite way for me to ask them to please pay up?! 
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Re: XP: Feeling awkward about money

  • brittartistbrittartist member
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    I know how you feel- I had the same problem- and I would describe all of my bridesmaids and very responsible professional women!! I had to go chasing after money the day before the deadline and every response was, "Oh I forgot!" One neglected to give me the money for two weeks after the deadline: "Oh I've been trying to get it to you!" (We live in the same neighborhood...*sigh*)

    Anyway- I feel the same way you do and told everyone the same thing, "I hate asking for money even when it's agreed upon and owed" but be direct. Ya'll already agreed, they knew the deadline- the only people who should feel anything is them and it's embarrasment for missing their deadline (not being harsh, but as a bride, you have MANY deadlines to meet and I'm sure you've met all of them.) and I was never rude with them but I made my disappointment known subtly but was also let them know how appreciative I was when I did receive the money.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited July 2012
    That's a very award position to be in, isn't it? Did you ask each girl, privately, for a dress budget? You can either pay the deposits for them or let each bm order her own dress directly from the company. Just make sure they know the due date for getting the dress on time and leave it up to them.

    You didn't ask this question, but I'm going to give an unsolicited opinion anyway. Be very careful about ordering dresses from out of the country. My daughter was very excited that she found a Jim Hjelm dress for her bms at the unbelievable price of $99. As it turns out, the dress company  posts pictures from various designers on their website and produces knockoffs. There is no way of knowing what those dresses are going to look like, until they arrive. If they are not up to snuff, the bms would have no recourse. They decided not to chance it.

    ETA - would you please come back and let us know how the dresses look when they arrive? It would be very helpful to those who are still shopping for dresses on line.
                       
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    My biggest concern here is that you are working with a Chinese knockoff/ripoff operation.  These never come out well.  We have had many girls post here practically in tears about the mess they received and there is a certain time period for any claims for a refund.  The dresses are ALWAYS sent after the refund time expires.  That clock starts ticking when you order.  I'm going to really encourage you to not go there.
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