So, I mostly lurk, and I've seen a lot of posts from girls who had a relative/friend get engaged after them but set the date before the OP's wedding date, and the OP is all upset. I always thought it was a ridiculous thing to get upset about. Until now. I know I'm an asshole for feeling this way, and I don't know how to make myself feel differently.
I got engaged may of this year, wedding planned for june 22, 2012. My cousin just got engaged last month, and had said that her wedding was either going to be august 2012 or sometime in 2013. Got a text from her today--Her wedding will be June 2nd, 2012. Immediately I thought to myself "seriously????" then I thought to myself "you're being ridiculous". I don't know why this is bothering me! My mom was pissed, she said it was "my year" and she was taking it all away--which I don't agree with at all. I think mostly I'm upset because I know my aunt and uncle who live in Florida aren't going to fly up twice in June, and I really want them to be at my wedding. I'm in Michigan, so I obviously didn't grow up with them around. The thing is, my grandma passed away this april. She had lived with my family for the past 3 years. When my aunt and uncle came to michigan for the week of the funeral (they stayed awhile to help my mom with estate stuff, etc), we got really close. They were over almost every night and we would all stay up and talk and drink wine, etc. FI and I had talked to them about how we were likely going to be married in 2012 and they expressed how excited they were to come.
idk..I'm not mad, I don't feel like she is "stealing the spotlight", but I'm still kind of upset. I don't want to feel this way, I just want to be excited for her....someone slap me.