Hello, I'm relatively new to this board, so I thought I would say hello, I've been lurking for a long time but now I really need some advice.
Firstly, my name is Lynda and I am from Australia, I am getting married in November to my best friend, but we seem to have reached an impasse in our planning:
I posted this over on Australian Knot several months ago, and while the advice I got was good, it didn't really help, so I am wondering if maybe someone has a different way to approach this situation:
Basically it comes down to I want a Minister to conduct our ceremony, he wants a celebrant.
A little background, I was raised a Christian, my family has been very involved in Christian ministry here in Australia for many years, originally the Pastor I had asked to do our service said no as he was no longer leading the church and didn't think he would be back to do our wedding, that was fine, we are not getting married in a church, which was as compromise my FI and I had agteed to when I we first started planning, we wouldn't get married in the church but we would use a minister to marry us, but FI thinks that since I couldn't get the Pastor I orignally wanted, we don't need to have one.
A few months later, my FI and I were out walking when a car stopped at the petrol station we were walking past, on the side of the car was a big stickler advertising this mans celebrant services, FI approached the man and asked him what he cost etc. and made an appointment to meet.
At the time I was happy to go along with it, I didn't think it would matter to me who married us, as long as, at the end of the day, we were married. however, as the months have past, I have found myself doubting this decision, I met a Pastor who I really want to marry us, but my FI wont budge on the issue.
To be honest, I know it wasn't fair of me to agree to something and then change my mind, however, like I said, I didn't think it would be such a big deal, but it is. I have tried to discuss this with my FI rationally, explaining why this means a lot to me but his rationalising it by saying that he wants the ceremony to be 'fun' and he thinks the celebrant would make it fun.
Am I being crazy? Should I just drop the issue and use the celebrant? does anyone have any suggestions on how I can make this decision? Sorry this is so long, I have been bottling this up for a long time.