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moh problem/ vent

odustudent22odustudent22
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in August 2012 Weddings
My MOH is my older sister.  ALL of my girls have gotten their dresses, except her  She didn't want to go dress shopping..just told me to pick something, she'd wear it (but she's heavy on top and would prefer strappless)...so after showing her several ideas and her not liking them, I finally just picked one and said here, I'd like you to wear this dress............which is what she'd asked me to do.......but then she turned around and told my mom she didn't care for the dress....but how would she know, it's 3 months to the wedding and she hasen't even gone to try one on at Davids, let alone order it. 

Now, I know that she is an extremely busy woman...she has a demanding job and travels constantly.  She's under stress, and I understand that too....I work two jobs and try to run a household (i live with my FH and his TWO teenagers), cook-clean-shop-wedding planning....I don't want to push her to hard, or the wrong way....but I'm starting to get frustrated and stressed about it (as it is, she's already wearing a different dress than everyone else to suit her style).  any advice?  sorry for whining ladies.
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  • jmleejohnsonjmleejohnson
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    I do not have NEARLY as much on my plate as you do and I am stressed out to the max so I definitely feel for you! I would rest easy that at least you do have a tiny bit of time left, you do need to tell her though that it needs to get done. I am getting married 8-31 and I told my sister she HAD to buy her dress by the middle of June, so with that said, don't panic tooo much yet, I would say she probably has another 2 to 3 weeks to get it on time!

    As for sisters... ugh sisters sisters sisters.... They must get their jollies by torturing the other one, I love my sister but she gets on my nerves like no other. She is also my MOH and I can't wait for the day that I am her MOH just to show her what she did to me day in and day out. :)

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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    much yet, I would say she probably has another 2 to 3 weeks to get it on time! As for sisters... ugh sisters sisters sisters.... They must get their jollies by torturing the other one, I love my sister but she gets on my nerves like no other. She is also my MOH and I can't wait for the day that I am her MOH just to show her what she did to me day in and day out. :)
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    my sister is getting married in October, but doesn't want a wedding at all.it was just going to be her, her F, my mom and his dad signing the paper and going to dinner....
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  • saraschilling88saraschilling88
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    I literally have almost the same problem with my sister/MOH.  She said she'd wear what everyone else is wearing, then complained to my Mom because it is strapless!  She also has yet to order her dress (from David's, great minds think alike).  What I did, was kindly ask her why she hasn't been measured, and she said she doesn't have a store near her or anything to measure with, which is understandable.  I told her we could get her measured at my shower, and I would place the dress order for her if she needed me to. 

    I also agree with PPs that David's Bridal has a good turnover time (I'm actually banking on that), and that your sister has time to order her dress (and can have it rush ordered if need be).  Also that she could have just been venting to your Mom, it is common to vent about something and say things you don't necessarily mean.

    If I was in your shoes, I'd just try to relax for a bit (easier said than done, I know) and reapproach in a few weeks.  Also, could you offer to just use her measurements to order the dress so all she has to do is go pick it up?  Good luck!!
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  • odustudent22odustudent22
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    I guess the main thing that bothers me is that I called her up and said, I want you to be happy and comfortable in your dress, so as long as its the right color you can wear what ever dress you like...and she said that she didn't want to go shopping for a dress or have to pick one out, that she'd rather I pick it out..so I took into consideration everything she didn't want in a dress, and picked one out that I felt looked good with my BM dresses, sent her the picture and asked her what she thought.  asked a couple of times if she liked it and she said yes....then turned around and told my mom it isn't her style, they had other dresses she liked better....UGH.  I've decided that she's my sister no matter what she wears on my wedding day, and that I have to have faith that my big sister won't let me down on what could possibly be the most important single day of my life (unless I end up having children)
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  • Unknown092113Unknown092113 member
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    I agree with PP....just give a few weeks and re-visit the situation. Just simply ask her what other dresses she prefers over the one you picked out and go from there.

    I am going through the same thing to with my sister and already wanting to wear a dress that she owns but it doesn't fit my wedding style at all. So in order to not start fights....I let her wear the dress she wants and have my other BM find a dress that looks similar (which we did and that BM only spent 35 bucks on it...whoop whoop...lol). I will just buy them dressy jewelry to make the dresses more 'my style wedding.' Unfortunately it is not fully what I wanted but I made a compromise to keep peace.
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