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Charitable Favors?!? Tacky or no?

boondogglieboondogglie
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I am a bride that has recieved several different transplants. Because of this my future husband and I have decided to make a very nice donation to the Gift of Life organization. They are an organization, in a nutshell, notifies the doctors when it is your turn to recieve the transplant. This organization has had a huge impact in my life, therefore we thought it was fitting to be apart of our wedding. Because honestly without them, and the donation of loved ones organs,  I would not be getting married. 

We have the arm bands for the organization to give our guest. So my questions are is it tacky for this be a favor? and if not how do we word this in not so many words to our guest who do not know the brides story? 

We are getting married on Saturday and I have been up in arms about this! 
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Re: Charitable Favors?!? Tacky or no?

  • djvargodjvargo
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think its tacky because like you said, the organization has had a huge impact in your life.

    If you are having a table where the arm bands will be, I think writing a small note on the table explaining your story would be fine just how you did in this post. If you are having them on each plate, maybe having a smaller note (like 1-2 sentences) on each table would do (i.e. "This organization and the help of loved ones gave (your name) the chance to marry the love of her life (his name) today. We returned some of the love back with a donation to the organization."

    I don't think you have to go into detail about the organization, because if I got the favor and didn't know what it was, I would just go home and look it up as I'm sure most people would do (or just ask the person next to you at the wedding).

    I hope this helped, not sure if it did!
    Congrats on getting married, hope your day is wonderful.
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  • CassieeKCassieeK
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    edited December 2011
    Have you read the sticky note at the top of the page on this topic?

    I'm sorry you've had to experience transplant surgery, and I understand this organization matters in your life.  Donate to them.  Do it right now on this random Friday and don't give favors at the wedding. Nobody will miss the favors.

     But you should never tell people what they aren't getting, so telling them you took money for favors and did something else with it,  no matter how important, isn't appropriate.  You can/should donate and not involve your wedding at all. 
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  • tldhtldh member
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    edited December 2011
    The armbands themselves are fine.  I would not announce some donation made in the guests' names.
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