I just got engaged HELP!

Re: I just got engaged HELP!

• s-aries8990 member

  

  January 2013

  A few pointers to ponder in the very beginnng!
  
  1) Breathe!!!!
  2) talk with FI about the type of wedding you want, the feel etc AND how soon you would like to get married
  3&4) Think about guest list and budget. How many people do you want there? How much do you have to spend? Are parents coming to you and offering their finacial help? Is their help worth any pull they may try to use?
  
  I put finances/list size together because they are kind of co-dependent. Just enjoy being engaged!!!!!
  
  -- NEY but I've lurked here for a while!

   

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2013

  Sydaries gave you good advice. That's pretty much how everybody "starts." Once you have your budget and a potential guest list, start looking at venues that will accommodate your numbers. 

  
  

  Congrats and happy planning!

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• gymbugmj2k member

  

  January 2013

  take your new fiance out for a nice quiet dinner.... or make one at home.  tell him that you'd like to talk about your visions for the wedding day. I cannot stress this enough. Talk about what each of you has in mind for the overall vision of the day. DON'T JUDGE each other.  Write down all your ideas.
  
  My husband and I did this and came up with similar ideas (ratpack, classy, wine, italian food, etc)- which was great to know from the beginning.  we even agreed quickly on colors! we then talked about what was most important. he really cared about the food, cake, music and photography. i cared about the venue, food, music and photography.  knowing that, helped us put together our budget of where we'd spend the most. we figured we could save on things like flowers, transportation (neither of us cared if we had a limo or not), etc.
  
  it was a long conversation, but it let me learn a LOT about what he envisioned his wedding day to be.  every few weeks we'd sit down again to discuss ideas for particular items - cake, invitations, etc.  a few times he'd say "i really don't care about this part" and I knew that i had the freedom to choose what i liked.
  
  i guess long story short. Communicate from the beginning. let him have a say when/where he wants it.  As soon as you have the vision set, MAKE SURE you set a budget.  You'll probably do a lot of reaserch while setting the budget (to learn what different things cost), but make sure that you're keeping track of your spending.

  
  

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• nicole808

  

  January 2013

  Sydaries gave your best suggestions. i would like to show you some more according the esperience. More things need to be prepare. the wedding dress, tiara and shoes, the bridesmaids dresses, their jewelry, the photographer, the cake, the invites, the decor, the florist, the rings, the favors, the cars . Good Luck!

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• HappyLisa1986 member

  

  January 2013

  Your wedding will be the most important day in your life, and in the future you want to remember your happy day in your dream wedding dress.In order to avoid any undue stress on the big day, the very first thing you need to do is to set your budget. Traditionally, the brides'family will pay for the wedding, for the recent years, it becomes quite common for both sides of family to pitch in. Discuss your financial situations with your fiance and your parents and your fiance's parents, knowing what each person will contribute allows you to move forward with all the other aspects of wedding planning.In that case,you will know the expense distribution on the wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses and so on.You also need to create a tentative guest list. The amount of invites should be split up between each person family who is helping to pay for the wedding, obviously, a higher budget means that you can invite more person, but be careful there! Don't forget that every guest will need a few moments of your time, so if you don't feel like spending a long time on chatting, then cut back on your guest count. At this point, you need to decide on style and formality of your wedding, the formality of the wedding is decided by the bride's and the groom's personal style, your budget and the expectations of your family members.After setting your budget,you need to choose a style and theme that reflect both the bride and groom.Be sure to set your priorities, start with vendors, dates and locations, hire the most important vendors and allocate more of your budget for their services. Next, consider what days and seasons you want to be married in. Do you absolutely have to be married in the fall? If so, this helps to determine what venues are appropriate and what kinds of flowers are available, as well as theme and colors. This brings us to location, how important is your location to you? This can actually determine the formality and style, and the theme of your wedding, so be sure to give it a careful consideration. It may seem overwhelming at first but take your time to properly plan your wedding, you'll make all the difference, as you prepare to say:" I do!"

  
  
  

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• Viczaesar member

  

  January 2013

  Go away, spammer Lisa.

  
  
  
  

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