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Should I gather my girls?

sierraberry32sierraberry32 member
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First off, my idea of BM dresses were red and knee length... Thats it. I don't care where they buy it from or what material it is made from, just as long as they wear it down the aisle.

Now here is my question, should I get the girls together and go shopping for dresses, if so, when is an appropriate time?  Or, should I just talk to them, give them hints on where to go, and just check up on them a few months before the wedding? 
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Re: Should I gather my girls?

  • unchatenfranceunchatenfrance
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    You decide. You know your (their) dynamic best. You may want to give them more guidelines (a specific designer, etc) if you're concerned about them all being in the exact same shade of red.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited March 2013
    I would give your girls the parameters that you set (red and knee length) and maybe look up some stores that have that style in a variety of prices.  Talk to each girl and tell her that you noticed X, Y, and Z store have some dresses that could work if you want to check it out.  I would tell them that it would great if they could have their dresses by a month before your wedding (mainly for your sanity but you do not have to tell them that).  After all that is said, leave it alone.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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  • Xstatic3333Xstatic3333 member
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    I had a few BMs that wanted to go shopping all together, so we did a big trip last week. Two preferred to go on their own time, which is totally fine. In my case, I did set guidelines on fabric and chose a store with plenty of within budget options to keep things somewhat unified. It seems to be working well for my BP.
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    If your BMs are spread around the country, I say don't bother with the headache of trying to get them together.  They're all picking their own dress anyway, so it's more of a 'gee wiz' fun times shopping trip anyway.

    I agree that they need guidelines.  Pick what's important to you (straps?  Hem length? fabric?  etc), and pick and exact shade.  THen order color swatches, and send them to the girls so they can use the swatch while shopping.  That will go a LONG way towards smoothing out the process for them.
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  • julie650julie650 member
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    You might want to ask them what their overall preference is. They might actually prefer going with you so that they know they are getting the correct dress. It can be stressful if you have to go by yourself and try to find a dress that fits the parameters. Even if some girls want to go, and others don't, go with the ones that do want to go and let the others choose it on their own. If it makes you feel better that you went all together than you could suggest that because it really isn't much to ask for the girls to get together one day and pick them out.
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