To all past BMs out there...what was your favorite gift from a wedding?

Re: To all past BMs out there...what was your favorite gift from a wedding?

• AdeleDazeem member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Buy each person involved in the wedding something that they would actually like.  I've never seen anyone use their flask (plus engraved initials!), but I'd definitely love a gift card to a good restaurant in my area.  Or a fabulous book because I like to read.
  
  Put some thought into the wedding party as individual people and not as "bridesmaids." 

  
  

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• AutumnFair member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  I've gotten a tote (which I used for a year until it broke), necklaces (one, in which, I knew was just to match the BM dresses, still haven't worn it again, the other was more towards my individual style and wear to work once a week), glass jewelry box w/ our initial (got broke within the month), and a gift cards to a place I shop at regularly. 

  
  

  I did like my other friend's necklace because it was cute and I wear it often (it was simple piece but very chic) and gift card because I used that bad boy up quick. 

  
  

  As for putting individual thought, its up to you to know what your bridesmaids taste, personalities are like. If you want to do jewelry, make sure you find some that will meet their individual taste so that they will feel comfortable using again for work or other occasions (formal or casual). Some people may not like necklaces either, earrings, bracelets may be more their style, so think if you friends wear earrings all the time, or bracelets, that would be a better gift to get. I really appreciated the gift cards because even ones that were for Nike, I enjoyed a lot, since they knew what I like to do. 

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• Jessica Eve member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  I am a bride in the middle of getting gifts as well. I was aloso a bridesmaid 4 times and I liked when the gift was personal instead of jewelry to match the dress. So for my girls I am getting something that represents that and what they mean to me as well as a lillte extra something to remember the day.

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• caseylynne21

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  i got my girls the hotel rooms we stayed in for the bacholorette party...i know that typically this is different but they were all surprised and really apprepriated it...especially with how expensive a wedding can be...and a painted wine glass...they each got a different one unique to them

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• hh581842 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  If your BMs are on a budget, I think buying them something they would have had to buy for themselves for the wedding (like the PP's hotel rooms) is always great.  It's practical, and for budget BMs, it's a relief. you could buy the jewelry you expect them all to wear, or their shoes, or their dresses, or if you want them to all get their hair and makeup done, you could pay for that rather than having them pay for it themselves. I wish my bride (i'm currently a BM) would buy my shoes, because I'll probably never wear them again and they are a waste of my money, though I think it's good we are all wearing the same shoes. 

  
  

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• [Deleted User]

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Don't worry about what's popular or a 'favorite.' Your gifts don't even have to match. Get something your BMs will like that is personal to them. It will mean more because you took the time to consider what they actually like, not jsut get some blanket gift that they'll never use again.
  
  For example, I grew up with my MOH and we used to play with toy horses. She still loves horses and when we went to the mall a few weeks ago, she saw the toys we used to play with that she has since lost. So, I'm going to get her a couple packages of the toy horses. It's meaningful, cutesy, and she'll love it.

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• mica178 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  When I was MOH, the bride had a masseuse come to the inn where the wedding was held and paid for massages for the two of us.  After all that planning and stress, it was nice having someone rub my back and shoulders to relax before the wedding.  Much better than some trinket or piece of junk.  I have pictures to remember the wedding, don't need a tote bag to do that.

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• bablingbrooke member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  When the bride paid for my BM dress.

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• gymrat1279 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  At my best friend's wedding, she paid for our BM dresses.  She also bought the jewelry she wanted us to wear.  We didn't have matching jewelry, she customized it to our taste.  Since I was the MOH and had done a lot for her, she got me a very nice necklace which I wear a ton to work.

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• hh581842 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Stage manager, do you just like to pick on me?? lol. I mentioned buying BM dresses too! My point was that instead of buying a tote or something, buy them something they otherwise would have had to buy themselves, like the dress or the shoes.  I would never force my BM's to have their makeup done and then make them pay for it, but some brides do.  

  
  

  Now that I read what I wrote, it does sound that way, but i was actually thinking of the wedding i'm currently in.  None of us HAVE to have our hair done, but I will probably go have my hair done professionally myself. I think it would be a fun gift if the BM paid for us to all do it together.  She may not be able to afford buying us dresses, but giving us day-of makeovers would be fun i think, and it's more affordable.  We could all get ready in the suite and have our hair done together.  The same idea as like a pedicure party at a spa.  

  
  

  I didn't mean for it to come across as "you HAVE to get your hair/makeup done, and me paying for it will be your gift." I didn't communicate what I was saying as well as I thought I had lol. 

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• futureshaheen

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_past-bms-out-therewhat-favorite-gift-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:34f230c4-8e47-412b-a14a-09c26c6071f9Post:ab1f899a-240f-4ce1-8197-af5c76b684ac">Re: To all past BMs out there...what was your favorite gift from a wedding?</a>:
  [QUOTE]When the bride paid for my BM dress.
  Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
  
  That is an awesome gift! I am in my friend's/FSIL wedding in May. FMIL mentioned giving me money for my dress. I was estatic, as I was not expecting it at all. She hasn't yet, and I don't expect it, but if she did I would not argue.

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