Thoughts on Honeymoon websites -- trendy or tacky??

cmhcbb · August 2010

I am getting feedback from friends and family falling into both categories. What do you guys think??

We have a house already and pretty much have most of what we need in it. We have registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond for a few nicities like sheets and towels, and some new dishes, but there isn't much we need.

If someone wants to give us a gift, I guess we prefer cash to put towards our honeymoon. There are sites that offer a service to let people register to get us gift of cash towards various honeymoon activities. Is that tacky to have that be one of our registries?

Thank you!

Jillibeans11681 · August 2010

Our guests RAVED about our honeymoon registry. That said, I have a fairly "young" crowd. (Only a couple people over 60). It worked out great for us, I guess it depends on the type of guests you have. If they're traditional, they're not going to use the registry or give cash at all. There's a few in every crowd who refuse to give cash but insist on a "gift". For this reason, we linked our traditional registry to our honeymoon registry. I think most people of our generation feel cash is the best gift to give any couple. My mother said registries didn't exist when she got married and when they first came out were considered "tacky." It's all in what people are used to.

cg-pm52111 · August 2010

I think if it's something you want to do, then you should do it. Guests will choose whether or not they would like to use it. But I would have a traditional registry as well with just a few things on it so that people who want to buy an actual gift have that option.

chica7484 · August 2010

I'm not a huge fan of them. I would rather give money and have you do with it what you will instead of giving you money for a honeymoon (even if that's how you use the money). Most of the websites take a cut of the money your friends and family give anyway. For example, if your aunt buys you a $150 snorkeling adventure for your honeymoon, you might only receive $135 toward your HM.

People that want to buy a gift will buy off your registry, but others will get the hint and give you cash. You can do with it what you want. Word of mouth (by parents and bridal party) is also a way to go. I wouldn't do a honeymoon registry. Just use the cash you receive for your HM - we did that and it worked out really well.

msowena · August 2010

I have also heard mixed reviews, but you know what... if you don't think it's tacky, then it's right for you. Nothing is ever going to be considered "acceptable" to every person. There are always going to be a few people who will complain or find something offensive. I am also considering going this route.. and there ARE free one's out there that won't take money from the gifts. I would understand the guests not liking it if the site took a fee from every gift given. I agree with others that said that if you have a few small things you want you can make a registry for the more traditional people. But if there's nothing at all you need/want.. I wouldn't make a registy of stuff (i didn't even really want/need) just to please people who can't step outside of their comfort zones for one day, and buy the gift that you and DH will most appreciate and don't have the funds for

cmhcbb · August 2010

Thank you all for you responses. I double checked the with site we were thinking of using and they do charge a fee -- actually 10%. I think we're going to stear away from it. We do have an older crowd and I don't think would get it.

Thanks again!

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