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semay23 · May 2012

...but what is a dollar dance?

OBX2011 · May 2012

Something you don't want to do b/c it's considered rude in some parts.

Basically, guests will pay a certain amount of money to dance with the bride for a few minutes and the B&G get to keep all of the money at the end. A lot of people think this comes off as gift grabby.

doublenn · May 2012

Guests give the bride and groom money to dance with them.

People on the boards seem to agree that if you have to ask what it is, don't have it. It looks money-grabby and may not go over well with your guests.

semay23 · May 2012

Oh my! lol I had never heard of it an saw another post mentioning it and was very confused. I agree, I don't believe that will, ahem, fit the theme of my wedding. Thanks!

Nshivers · May 2012

I never knew what it was either!!

naomikb · May 2012

If it's not an expected part of your culture then don't do it.

HobokensFury · May 2012

It's basically a rude money grab. PP have covered it.

Lisa50 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]...but what is a dollar dance?
Posted by semay23[/QUOTE]

The dollar dance is as described above, but I don't think it comes off as gift grabby if it is part of your family's tradition. I've only seen a dollar dance at one friend's wedding (she's Polish), but it had been a part of every wedding in the bride's family ... new for me, but quite expected in their family and certainly not considered rude in their culture.

mrsbarbieq · May 2012

I have also seen weddings where the guests pin bills onto the bride's gown and the groom's suit while they dance. You don't necessarily have to dance with them but basically just give them money. Am personally not into it, but I've seen couples do it (and bring home a lot of cash)

kushie77 · May 2012

It's traditional in our family- we're Polish and Slovak and FI is Polish. The MOH wears an apron and you put a kerchief on the bride's head. People line up and pay to dance with the bride-the MOH collects the dollars in her apron. We are skipping it however as I have been dealing with vertigo and inner ear issues for the last several months and in our family they like to spin you around and around.

TaraKeeley · May 2012

My future (Costa Rican) husband insists that it is totally normal and expect that I allow people to pin money to my dress and dance with them. I'm not particularly comfortable with either of these things, but I think it's tradition more than a "rude money grab." ...at least if it's really tradition in your culture or family.

semay23 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]It's traditional in our family- we're Polish and Slovak and FI is Polish. The MOH wears an apron and you put a kerchief on the bride's head. People line up and pay to dance with the bride-the MOH collects the dollars in her apron. We are skipping it however as I have been dealing with vertigo and inner ear issues for the last several months and in our family they like to spin you around and around.
Posted by kushie77[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry to hear that!

aragx6 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]My future (Costa Rican) husband insists that it is totally normal and expect that I allow people to pin money to my dress and dance with them. I'm not particularly comfortable with either of these things, but I think it's tradition more than a "rude money grab." ...at least if it's really tradition in your culture or family.
Posted by TaraKeeley[/QUOTE]

It's important to consider how your family will take it, however.

nafallon · May 2012

My daughter married into a family with Italian roots and the dollar dance was an expected part of the reception. I didn't like the idea at first, but the DJ pointed out that some people really look forward to it as their only chance to talk to the bride or groom during the evening other than a quick "congratualtions". My daughter came up with the idea of having "tickets' on the table for people to use rather than dollars if they prefered which I thought was a good compromise. She actually ended up skipping the dollar dance as the groom was not feeling well, but I think the tickets would have worked out to give people a few minutes of time to share a special memory or bit of wistom with the bride and groom.

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