How do you prefer to address thank you cards?

parker624 · June 2010

I'm writing some thank yous and am torn between addressing them "Dear Joe and Suzy" or "Dear Mr. and Mrs. Smith."

I think a thank you note should be more informal. But, do you think the inside of the note should be as formal as the address on the envelope?

AlmostSt.Laurent · June 2010

I did mine more informal. I think it gives a closer, more personal feel.

ETA: I don't know what actual etiquette is however.

MissLeahM · June 2010

Personally, if I don't know them that well, I will address, Mr. & Mrs.

But if its my cousins I will adress them by name, or close aunts then I'll say Uncle John and Aunt Jane.

danieliza1127 · June 2010

I address it by whatever I call that person to their face. So if you call them Mr. so-and-so, write it that way, but if you would never call them that in person, then I think it's overly formal and unnecessary.

quotequeen · June 2010

Well, I'm leaving off titles on my wedding invitations, so I certainly won't be using them for the thank you notes. I think I will address the inside the way that I usually address the person, which usually means by first name, but I may write "Aunt Sue and Uncle Bob." That's what I always did when I wrote TY notes as a kid.

jnic0319 · June 2010

On pre wedding events thus far, I've done invites formal, thank you's informal.

I plan on doing the same for the wedding.

parker624 · June 2010

I absolutely agree with Aunt Sue and Uncle Bob.

So my next question is, if you were one of my parent's or FI's parent's friends (ones that we personally weren't close with) and received a TY that addressed them as Mr. and Mrs. would they think it is rude? I mean, they were invited to our wedding, we are in theory supposed to be close to them, although there are a few guests who are parents' friends that we don't really know.

danieliza1127 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_prefer-address-thank-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3a71d9f1-6991-4e30-bb40-edf927869d74Post:2f80f5bc-5833-4c2b-9f30-4fb3cf18de33">Re: How do you prefer to address thank you cards?</a>:
[QUOTE] So my next question is, if you were one of my parent's or FI's parent's friends (ones that we personally weren't close with) and received a TY that addressed them as Mr. and Mrs. would they think it is rude? I mean, they were invited to our wedding, we are in theory supposed to be close to them, although there are a few guests who are parents' friends that we don't really know.
Posted by parker624[/QUOTE]

How did they sign the gift or card?

parker624 · June 2010

Dani, I can't believe I didn't think of that! Of course we should address our TYs how they signed their card. Duh.

Catwoman708 · June 2010

I prefer to address wedding thank yous more formally, at least on the outside, and address them by first name on the inside, with at least a small personal note and sentiment besides the "thank you for the great toaster" sentance.

I figure that a wedding is the most formal event a couple ever plans, and the thank you note for wedding gifts are the first correspondance usually sent out by the couple. I think it's nice to start out on the right foot, with a "proper" note. You can do casual any old time.

Etiquette_Maven · June 2010

I'd address the envelopes formally, but on the inside, address them as you would if you were speaking to them.

pooh8402 · June 2010

I used the names that I actually call them. if I call them Mr and Mrs Smith, then that's what I put on the note. if I called the person Nana, that's what I put.

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