My cousin is throwing me a bridal shower and just asked me for a guest list. The majority of my bridesmaids live far away (they're west coast, I'm east coast) and I know they won't be able to attend since they're traveling here for my wedding 6 weeks afterward. Should I still send them invitations?
I obviously would love to have them there (they are my closest friends!), but I don't want them to feel bad for not coming. One of them keeps saying how sorry she is that she can't help me with me more wedding stuff, but I really don't mind. Also, I really don't expect them or want them to buy me a shower gift! They're already spending a lot to travel here for my wedding, and I truly don't care if they don't get me a shower present.
Is there a way to send them invitations without making them feel obligated to get me a gift? I know when I get bridal shower or baby shower invites I always send a gift even when I can't attend--I'd feel bad not to. Or should I not say anything about gifts and just send them invites to let them know I would have wanted them to come if they lived closer?
Maybe I'm making too much of this. Any advice would be helpful!