My Best Friend or Her Family

AAallDay · January 2013

Hi All,

Along with all the other stress-inducers popping the question comes with I have a bit of a unique one that I could use some help with. Here is the deal: my best friends (of 20 years) dad is a jewler - and I guess it has been implied that I would go to him for the engagment ring. However, my proposees uncle is also a jewler. Who do I go to?

What makes things a bit more complicated is that my girlfriend has mentioned that she is not very fond of my friend's dad's work, and that it would mean a lot to her if her uncle made the ring. So if I say, "Ok, this is her ring, I will go to her uncle," how do I tell my friend without hurting his or his dad's feelings about this?

Any and all advice is appreciated!

Thanks,

AA

AddieCake · January 2013

I think if your girlfriend has stated she isn't fond of the work your friend's dad does, that is your answer. I would just tell your friend the truth, that she said her uncle making the ring would mean a lot to her. Surely your friend and his father would understand you wanting to please your future fiancee by honoring her wishes. Good luck!

SlothGoals · January 2013

I agree with PP. Go to her Uncle and let your friend know that it's been her dream to have him make her ring. Your friend and his Dad should understand that.