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Ketubah Signing

Jemstone57Jemstone57
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Is it okay to have non-Jews sign the ketubah?  Most of my friends are not jewish, and there is one I would like to recognize in particular that did not fit in to my bridal party that is exclusively family.
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Re: Ketubah Signing

  • boaznruthboaznruth
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    I think it mostly depends on the stream of Judaism you are in.  It's likely that Orthodox Rabbis would have a serious problem with this, given that the ketubah is a legal document for them.  However, more modern streams of Judaism would likely see no issue at all.  It's probably best to ask your officiant on this.  :)
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  • ElisabethJoanneElisabethJoanne member
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    Ask the rabbi officiating at your wedding
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  • Bonzo2011Bonzo2011 member
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    Ask your rabbi. We will be having a non-Jew sign, and our rabbi said it was fine because since FI isn't Jewish the ketubah isn't a legal document.
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  • Benny618Benny618
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    edited June 2012
    Personally I wouldn't and I know my rabbi wouldn't allow it, but it of course is up to you and your rabbi at the end of the day. That being said, would you consider having your non Jewish friends sign your marriage license instead? Just a thought.
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  • StarquegStarqueg
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    I don't think having a non-Jew sign it would invalidate it, but it wouldn't be a valid signature on the legal document.  It might be that your rabbi requires you to have two Jews sign it, and then anyone else can as well.  That way, it's legal, but others can also be included.

    I agree with the PP who suggested having your friend sign your civil document instead.  It seems odd to me to have a non-Jew sign a document that they likely won't understand.  
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  • pandozaspandozas
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    Tradition calls for two holy men to be the witnesses. Obviously that has changed but two individuals that are not close family (cousins ok) are supposed to sign it. But agreed, ask your rabbi. 

     Just curious, are you doing it as part of the wedding ceremony or seperate? Trying to figure out how and when to do this as part of my wedding.
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  • Jemstone57Jemstone57
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    Thank you for all of the help!  I am going to speak with my Rabbi.  And Pandozas, we are going to do the signing before we walk down the aisle in the prep room.  That is how I've seen it done mostly in the tristate
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