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funandfreckles · May 2012

We registered over the weekend. My fiance and I have been together for 9 years, leaving together for 8. I've been gone from home for 12 years. I (we) don't need a lot of stuff. I registered for things I don't have: such as wine glasses and a gravy boat, a couple baking items...and then registered for things I'd never buy myself. Such as a Kitchen Aid mixer, attachments, blender, etc.

When I look at my registry now, it's overwhelmingly full of expensive items. There are several items under $50, but the majority is well over $100.

I'm just feeling guilty about it, and wondering if I should add items I don't really want just to make more affordable items? WWYD? Or what did you do?

mcskatcat · May 2012

Generally speaking, you should have a variety of price points on your registry. If most of the things on your registry over $100, then it tends to look a little gift-grabby.

If you don't need a lot, then I would take off some of the pricier things and purchase them yourself with wedding money after the wedding, rather than have people look at a registry full of expensive items.

funandfreckles · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Generally speaking, you should have a variety of price points on your registry. If most of the things on your registry over $100,<strong> then it tends to look a little gift-grabby</strong>. If you don't need a lot, then I would take off some of the pricier things and purchase them yourself with wedding money after the wedding, rather than have people look at a registry full of expensive items.
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]

That's what I was worried about - even though that wasn't the intention.

I did register for bath sheets ($27 each), but I want 4 of them...and pillows ($34) but want 4 of them...I think I'll take the blender off the registry though, it's $299, and that combined with the KA mixer and attachments is almost $1000.

I am registered at a local shop that sells housewares, and that's got lots of stuff in the $20-50 range. Does that make a difference? Should I worry less about the dep't store registry?

arrestclementine · May 2012

To be honest with you, I would probably just leave it. It sounds like you have a good mix of items. And just because the KA mixer is 299 and with all the attachments it is $1000 doesn't mean that someone will feel like they HAVE to buy you it all. Along with the sheets and pillows. Someone might buy you one or two. They won't feel the need to buy them all.

Because I don't have a KA mixer, what are the price ranges for the attachements?

Also the other store, will that be easy for people to realize you are registered there?

funandfreckles · May 2012

The KA mixer is $499!! I live in Canada though, and I wanted the nicer one. The attachments are about $200 or so.

Yes, it will be easy for people to know I'm registered at the local shop. The shower invites have that information on it.

I guess now that I sit back and realize tthat while the inexpensive items I registered for are at a different store, it doesn't mean I have to add inexpensive items to the dep't store registry.

erbear84 · May 2012

Hold the phone. The KA attachments are $200 in Canada? I registered for the pasta one and it was $80!

mcskatcat · May 2012

We got the pasta one for SIL last year and it was $175 at Dillards, in the US.

funandfreckles · May 2012

Well it's 3 different ones, I can't remember what's in it though, haha!

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

Can you break stuff like that up? Like instead of a KA attachment set for $200, are there individuals for 50-100 each? Are there other things you can break up, like nice pots and pans that normally come in a set?

In addition to the bath sheets, I would add a couple of sets of nice bath towels. You might not need them now, but they only last so long, and you'll need to replace sooner or later. Is there anything else you could get extra of that wears out that's in the lower price range?

GretchenLaRoux · May 2012

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[QUOTE]Can you break stuff like that up? Like instead of a KA attachment set for $200, are there individuals for 50-100 each? Are there other things you can break up, like nice pots and pans that normally come in a set? <strong>In addition to the bath sheets, I would add a couple of sets of nice bath towels. You might not need them now, but they only last so long, and you'll need to replace sooner or later. Is there anything else you could get extra of that wears out that's in the lower price range?
</strong>Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

This, exactly. I know you've been living on your own and together for a long time, but I'm sure there are little things here and there you could stand to upgrade or add more of. I always want more towels.

librababy · May 2012

I know how you feel. Most expensive item on my registry is $130 and I still feel weird and a little guilty. BUt it is kind of a wish list and I don't EXPECT people to get me these things. However, if I were you, I would just leave the items that are pricier. People will get what they feel comfortable getting...if they want to get you something from your registry at all. It'll be fine. They might even surprise you and get you that KA mixer after all.

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