totally apathetic.

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• 6fsn member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  Write a list of must haves.  Bathroom baskets are not a must have.  The caterer is.  Find some help to get those done- FI, a willing friend or mom.  Give yourself a deadline.  The Wednesday before our wedding was mine.  Whatever wasn't done didn't get done and I didn't care.

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• Butter Cookie member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_totally-apathetic?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:dddba0a6-da42-47f8-9f9d-2f183eba3aa2Post:baea3ff2-26e9-4243-8227-bb4a30e9515e">totally apathetic.</a>:
  [QUOTE]i am officially over wedding planning. at the beginning i wanted nothing to do with it, i'm such an anti-bride, then i let myself get excited for about 4 months. now its 2.5 weeks left and there is so much left to do and i could care less.  i can not wait to get married and for the big day, don't get me wrong, the day will be so fantastic, but as for sorting out the deets...i'd rather get hit by a bus right now! alll i feel like doing is sitting on the couch and watching television... i just feel like i'm done with it all, i have no energy, been eating nothing but crap, really behind at work and just plain don't care about the timeline, the favors, etc.... any advice to get my ass in gear so i don't mope around these next 2.5 weeks before the wedding?  be as harsh as you like, i need a good kick in the ass. 
  Posted by faberre[/QUOTE]
  
  It's only two and a half more weeks of putting this crap together and then it's all over. I have to consistently tell myself that when I'm all, "BUT I DON'T WANT TO GO BUY COFFEE CUPS! CAN'T PEOPLE DRINK COFFEE OUT OF THEIR HANDS?!"
  
  And cut out all the crap you don't need. I guarantee you very few people are going to miss the programs, and favors are easy. Throw some candy in an organza bag/some box, tie that isht up with ribbon and voila!
  
  And, as my wonderful wonderful friends have told me over and over, "Stop trying to take all this on by yourself. We're your friends. We're here as support. What do you need?"
  
  ^^not all friends are as super awesome as mine, but i bet you could probably at least throw it out there.

  

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• BeeBee22 member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_totally-apathetic?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:dddba0a6-da42-47f8-9f9d-2f183eba3aa2Post:baea3ff2-26e9-4243-8227-bb4a30e9515e">totally apathetic.</a>:
  [QUOTE]...alll i feel like doing is sitting on the couch and watching television... i just feel like i'm done with it all, i have no energy, been eating nothing but crap, really behind at work and just plain don't care about the timeline, the favors, etc.... 
  Posted by faberre[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>So sorry to hear you're in this funk.  I don't mean to presume, but it sounds like the way I  get sometimes when I'm under the gun and intimidated by/not interested in whatever it is I'm supposed to be doing.  Then I get mad at myself for being stuck... it spreads into my work and eating habits, I watch TV to avoid things...gets ugly.  I'm sorry you're in that kind of place.</div><div>
  </div><div>I'm not an organized person by nature, and minutiae can make me tired and stressed.  We've decided to hire a day-of coordinator, which may be something for you to consider (though I know the day is coming up fast).  They generally take care of the timeline, etc, and help with the runup: making sure all the last minute stuff is done (as I understand it - I haven't actually experienced it yet).  </div><div>
  </div><div>If you can't book a pro now, maybe you have a friend you can hire who enjoys/is good at that sort of thing to take the last minute stuff completely off your plate.  A few hundred dollars can buy you a lot of peace of mind.  Not having to deal with this stuff may help you out of your funk, so the rest of you life gets smoother for the next few weeks. </div><div>
  </div><div>You already know you hate the details ... it will be money well spent to get it taken care of. Good luck to you!</div><div>
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