Upset with the CG today...

Re: Upset with the CG today...

• BellyB11

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  I'm so sorry your feeking so down! Deployments are seriously hard and sometimes you just have to cry. From what i've read on here Sami is really good with advise along with a bunch of others. I'm pretty new to the deployment also, but anyways, I hope your day gets better!

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• Beachy730 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  Looks like you're getting a harsh lesson in "nothing is ever set in stone in the military."  Sorry to hear that this is happening to you, but it is definitely something that will happen many times throughout his military career.  Hopefully he will be able to switch his leave to come home soon.  

  

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• kara811 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  Like the other ladies, sorry this is happening but like you already know it's just the harsh reality of loving someone in the military. Things can change so quickly and easily. Hopefully he does get to come home on leave before the deployment. I know you're at work right now, but if you do get a break or when you get home, cry if you want to. It can be good and healthy for you, a lot of us have been through the same thing. 

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• crownsuperstar member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  Sorry you are having a hard day.  H is deployed right now and trust me I do not believe anything until it happens.  I did get upset when we had to reschdule the first skype date because I really wanted to see and talk to him.  I had to remind myself that stuff happens.   As of now leave has been moved and pushed around so much I have no clue when or if to expect him home any time in the near future.  I just take it day by day.  I can say it will get easier and in some ways it does.  I just have learned never make plans for anything when there is a delpoyment, training or anything like that.  I just go about my life and when it happens it happens and then I am happy. 

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• SamiJoeB

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  I'm sorry that this is happening... It's not something that anyone wants to happen, but you learn not to get your hopes up about things until they happen.  I didn't really get excited about our wedding until I knew he was on the plane.  I just kept waiting for a phone call telling me that he wasn't going to be able to come.  Crown is totally right, it gets easier, or rather.. you get used to it.  Is your FI planning on making a career of the CG?  My FIL was career CG and H said the longest he was ever underway was like 2-4 months, and even then they aren't constantly out of reach..  CG ships aren't that big so they can't stay out to sea for months on end they way carriers can, KWIM?  I know that's not a whole lot of consolation to you right now, and that you had things planned and stuff, and that you're really disappointed, but look on the bright side, at least its now and not his leave to come home for the wedding!! Weren't you having trouble finding a photographer? This will give you more time to find one right?!

  

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• tyleet87 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I can't really imagine this because I've only gone through Basic and OCS with my FI. That was hard on me. I'm trying to learn patience with this career choice and be understanding.
  
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• Irishcurls member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  Yeah, I know it still sucks because you miss him, but depending on the size of his cutter, they can't really be out for more than 80 days....and he should get leave when they get back so hopefully it will work out for you guys! Cry it out, then do some yoga or watch crappy Bravo tv. Personally I'd have a glass of wine, but to each their own

  

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