unity candle- other ideas?

Meshuggahpie · April 2010

what are some other ideas besides a unity candle or sand ceremony?

trix1223 · April 2010

Skip it. IMO, the entire wedding ceremony IS a "unity ceremony", so having another is kind of redundant.

FWIW: My DD was married in July and they didn't light candles, pour sand, mix wine, tie hands together, mix dirt, plant trees, or anything else. Their ceremony was beautiful, and they're just as married as people who did do those things.

Anyway: all of the things listed above have been mentioned on these boards.

GL

bbyckes · April 2010

I second Trix.

bigvoice3 · April 2010

My favorite part of our wedding was the sand ceremony.

Like they said above, yes, its overdone. Yes, the whole wedding is uniting you. But if you want to do it, do it.

The minute or so we had the sand ceremony, we stepped to the side, and had a moment together. We got some nerves out and laughed together, and then we prayed together afterwards. It was beautiful to me and I got lots of comments from our guests about that portion of the ceremony.
There is a clip of it in the video on the home page of my married bio.

felkels · April 2010

this is kinda spendy, but if you are a Christian, this might be an option. I would totally do it if my FH liked the idea and we didn't already have our candle.

http://wedding-planning.getmarried.com/articles/index.php?id=470

It is a unity cross, and is pretty awesome I think.

amdjelly · April 2010

We're doing a salt covenant. It's kind of like a sand ceremony, because you're mixing salt together into one bottle. We like it because it's not done as often, and we like the meaning behind it. In the Old Testament times, when two people were making a vow or contract they each would take a pinch of salt from their pocket and add it to the salt in the other person's pocket. The vow was then considered unbreakable unless one of them could pick out each individual grain of their own salt from the other person's pocket. In the marriage salt covenant, of course, you don't do the salt in each other's pockets... As I said earlier in the post, you just do it pretty like a sand ceremony. There's also a few mentions in the Bible about a "salt covenant". Of course, there's also nothing wrong with not doing a unity ceremony at all.

JFH2010 · April 2010

We're getting married under two big willow trees on my family's farm, and we're planting a willow seedling together in a decorative pot, which will later be planted in the ground with the willow trees. We're both very outdoorsy and nature-y, so I think it will be perfect. Also, who knows if it will thrive, but if it does, I LOVE the idea of watching the tree grow on my parents' farm.

bhrett · May 2010

What about the wine box thing? You write letters to each other and put a bottle of wine in a wooden crate box and the officiant, you, FI, and your parents each put a nail in. Open on your 10th, 25th, etc anniversary or in the event of stormy times to remember the love you shared--and hopefully still do.

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