changing my name

CatieTX06 · December 2012

I recently got married and had planned on taking my husband's last name. My mother seemed hurt that I would not turn my maiden name into my middle name for a couple of reasons:
1. I've accomplished a little success with my maiden name
2. it's been a tradition in our family to do so, and
3. she feels as if I'm abandoning my family history by dropping it.

It really is not a huge deal to me, however my maiden name and my husband's last name are very similar sounding and I feel like it might be awkward when spoken. anyone have a similar issue? If so, how did you handle it?

Avion22 · December 2012

I think most people will realize that you've done First Maiden Married, and if it sounds awkward they won't use both. I mean, your parents probably picked your middle name because it sounded good with your First and Maiden names....but you don't pick your husband because of how his name souns with your First and Maiden names!

If your state allows it, you could always do First Middle Maiden Married, and go by whatever you want to go by.

Chloeagh · December 2012

Do whatever you want. My name is long. First Middle MomsLast DadsLast. MomsLast is considered a middle name, not a last name. The four names has been a PAIN for dealing with a lot of things. I remember it took about 10 years for my school district to get it right. It's a miracle they figured it out in time for graduation. I'm going to drop the last two names and just do First Middle Married. It's simple, and my middle name is a family name in both my family and and FI's family. And, yes, the names sound good together.

But before deciding on that, I toyed with a few other ideas, none of which would have been offensive because it's my name and my choice. Don't do what your mom wants just because your reason for not wanting to "isn't good enough." You have to live with this name for the rest of your life, so you better like it.

misssunshine17 · December 2012

If you don't want to, don't. But I agree, if it's just because it sounds funny, how many times do you think people will actually use it?

NYCMercedes · December 2012

Do whatever you want to do, but remember, probably no one is ever going to call you by your full name. In almost 30 years of marriage, I don't recall anyone calling me by my full name.

heroeswearbrown · December 2012

I had never heard of taking your maiden name your middle name until I started working. My middle name is a family name still so I will be taking FI's last name after the wedding with First Middle FI'slastname. I'm also kind of attached to my middle name. not sure why.

We've talked about giving my maiden name as a middle name to our child if we have a boy. Which would kind of carry on a family tradition since my dad's middle name and grandfather's middle name is my Great-grandmother's maiden name. Our family name may very well die out with my generation (9 female grandchildren and only 1 male who may become a priest), but I want to take FI's last name, so I'm going to.

your name, you choose.

OwningAHome1981 · December 2012

You could do husband's last name in social settings, but hyphen or do maiden at work or whatever. I'm known in my biz by my maiden name obv so when I get married I don't want that to disappear b/c I still want people outside of the company to know who I am. I am going to hyphen at work and on facebook haha but be called by my fiance's last name socially.

Calypso1977 · December 2012

Your name, your decision.

This.

No one will refer to your by your full 3 names unless you present it that way anyway (i.e. George Bernard Shaw, Louisa May Alcott, Sarah Jessica Parker) so i wouldnt worry about being Catie Bones Jones.

Lisa50 · December 2012

I did not change my name.

amymaysa · December 2012

Like others have said, how many times are you called by your full name.

Do what YOU want, as it is your name

virgobride85 · January 2013

My mom changed in maiden name to her middle name, but she only did the first letter. So it read like Amy B. Last name

MrsJoshuaParker4 · January 2013

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[QUOTE]I recently got married and had planned on taking my husband's last name. My mother seemed hurt that I would not turn my maiden name into my middle name for a couple of reasons: 1. I've accomplished a little success with my maiden name 2. it's been a tradition in our family to do so, and 3. she feels as if I'm abandoning my family history by dropping it. It really is not a huge deal to me, however my maiden name and my husband's last name are very similar sounding and I feel like it might be awkward when spoken. anyone have a similar issue? If so, how did you handle it?
Posted by CatieTX06[/QUOTE]

personally, if it were me i'd probably drop my maiden name.. if your mother is making that big of a deal, you could use your maiden name is other ways. for example, my maiden name, my sister used as my Nephew's middle name (Maiden name works for first/middle names too). if they sound similar, i would drop the maiden name (I have a friend who was "Gee" before she got married and is now "Lee" lol)

having a similar issue with my FI about my name lol. he doesn't like it, but i'm going to be FirstName MiddleName MaidenName-MarriedName.

jennyd412 · January 2013

It's your choice. I'm going to drop my middle name and use my maiden name as my middle. My sister did this, and I like the idea. We don't have a maiden name that works as a first name for a child, so that's not an option, but I've had this name for 30 years and I want to keep it while taking on my new last name.

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