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***Sweetie1184***

LolaPizzyLolaPizzy
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Hey, I just was reading your response to Bella's post and it made me tear up. My situation is almost exactly like yours, except that my dad passed away in 2008, and his cancer was of the esophagus. He didn't even know he had it until he went to the hospital as he'd gotten really sick, and within a week he was in hospice and mentally not there, and within a week he was gone. :( And just like you, I'm the baby and he was there for my other 2 sisters' weddings (though he was gone for my sister's wedding in '09), and my FI never got to meet him even though he was right by my side during those two weeks in the hospital.

I have a really great stepdad that's been in my life for over 20 years, but I've decided not to do any sort of stepfather/daughter dance because I just don't think I can handle it in the absence of my dad, and I'm having my big brother walk me down the aisle. It's still unsure as to whether FMIL is attending (it's a DW), but if she does, I'm really hoping that FI is OK with not doing the mother/son dance.
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  • sweetie1184sweetie1184
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry to hear that. It's definitely a hard situation, and your story hit close to home. I have a 5 year old son (who was born 3 days before my dad died, he never got to see him) who I'm having walk me down the aisle. My mom and dad were still married, so no step father here. I have a brother, but he has been disowned by our entire family due to abuse and a bad drug problem.

    FI really wants a mother/son dance and I can't deny him that. I know FMIL would be crushed, he's the only boy and first to get married in his family. I was trying to debate on either doing one with my son, or with my mom. My mom hasn't been the same since my dad died, she's had absolutely no involvement with this wedding, she didn't even want to go with me to pick out a dress. Do you think it would look funny if we just did a dance for FI and FMIL and that's it? What are you going to do if your FI wants to have one?
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  • LolaPizzyLolaPizzy
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    edited December 2011
    Awww, that will be really sweet to have your son walk you down. I've seen other girls do that and I love it.

    As far as the dance, do you have a grandfather in your life? I really haven't thought about what I would do. FI is really hoping for his mom to attend but I have my doubts about that actually happening. If she does, I'm sure he'll want to do a mother/son dance because funny enough, he's the one that seems to be all about doing things the traditional way, while I'm not. So if he does, I'll probably dance with either my stepfather (he's a great guy, I wouldn't want him to feel snubbed with not walking me and also not dancing with me) or my grampa because I know it would be a really big honor for him.

    If you decided not to do a dance while FI does his, I'm sure people would understand. But I think it would be really cute if you danced with your son, too.
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