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I'm sure I am just an idiot -

NJ JenNJ Jen member
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Having major dress second-guess trauma.

I didn't think I would get a wedding gown, I did.

Everyone says it looks well on me. I guess I liked it when I wore it.

Looking at my sister's pictures, I am not happy.


Ugh. Chocolate.
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Re: I'm sure I am just an idiot -

  • arv266arv266
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Did your wedding already happen?  Just remember that you are always your worst critic and there is just no such thing as a bride who isnt GORGEOUS!
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  • arllinmaarllinma
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    edited December 2011
    If you think you are going to regret it then fix it now before its too late. Can you get a second dress? one for ceremony and keep the chocolate for the reception? You need to feel pretty and comfortable.

    To the PP... I totally disagree- I have seen plenty of brides and bridal parties where people looked just awful! LOL
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  • NJ JenNJ Jen member
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    edited December 2011
    LOL the chocolate was what I required for solace!

    Can't have two dresses. Just not an option.

    Wedding is late June.
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  • arv266arv266
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    edited December 2011
    LOL to the brides looking awful!!!  I was doing my best to be supportive if the wedding already happened! 

    What is it about the dress that you dont like?  Is there anything that you can add to it, or maybe alter it in some way, to make you like it more? 
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  • AdelphiTNAdelphiTN member
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    edited December 2011
    Is your dress in yet?  If so, eat the chocolate, have a glass of wine, and go try it on again. i think lots of brides have dress separation anxiety which leads to second guessing.
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  • melissamc2melissamc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sure it's great.  I wish I could just wear a really comfortable nightgown on most days, but I know that's just me and my ridiculousness. :)

    As for all brides looking great - oh no. 
    10-10-10
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  • NJ JenNJ Jen member
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    edited December 2011
    LOL "Dress separation anxiety"!

    I KNOW I am hard on myself, hate pictures of myself. Trying to remember that I had some harsh critics (read, mom, sister, good friend) who all saw me in the dress and approved - and they tore many other dresses off my body....
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    Sounds like you need a boost of confidence!   Remember on that day you'll have hair, makeup, fancy schmancy stuff.  You'll be fabulous!  Post a photo of you in the dress, so we can tell you how fabulous you are!
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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    I never loved my dress either.  But here's the deal.  DH LOVED it (he was with me when I picked it).  I was having a hard time finding a dress. When I walked out of the dressing room, a few people gasped and he said he loved it.  That's why I'm happy with my pictures.  I'm sure you look lovely, even if you're having second thoughts.
    image Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.
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  • NJ JenNJ Jen member
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    edited December 2011
    THANKS EVERYONE!


    Wha, you want picture NOW or picture THEN??

    I am reconsidering doing my own hair and makeup, because of my mild insanity.
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    Once in a while I watch that Say Yes to the Dress and it's been said on there a few times that these women who come for their first fittings after months of not seeing their dress are often shocked.  Some insist its not the dress they chose, some think that now it's "ugly" in some way, or they just have second thoughts.

    Jen - you are probably your own worst critic.  And I don't know how to get past that since I am the same way.  What is it about the pics that bother you?  Is it really the dress?
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  • NJ JenNJ Jen member
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    edited December 2011
    Trying to figure that out.

    Is it because it is "bridal" and part of me still things that is "wrong"?

    Is it because I am waaaaaaaaaaay bigger than I wish I were?

    Is it the dress?

    Looking at my options, I am thinking that the first two are pretty probable.
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  • lopsie01lopsie01 member
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    edited December 2011
    A friend of mine had a winter wedding for her first wedding and her dress was chocolate and Ivory.  At that stage, it was considered a sin to wear white if you had lived with the guy before marriage but her dress was a great success !!!!! It looked stunning !  As long as you are comfortable wearing it, wear it.  It's your day !
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  • DirtysAngel74DirtysAngel74
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    edited December 2011
    I too am suffering from this dilema. I got a GREAT deal at a bridal shop... $900.00 dropped to $50 because of damage to the hemline that went about 6 inches up. Well, I'm short. The dress got hemmed... no more damage. About a week ago, I freaked out about it, totally POSITIVE that it's horrible on me. I ordered another one. For some dumb reason, the one I ordered wasn't the one I had originally fallen in love with either. (They are both beautiful dresses) DON'T get another one. Rash thinking is a waste of money. It isn't about the dress or the decor or the meal anyway. It's about the love and commitment you have for that one individual that you want to spend the rest of your life adoring.

    p.s. You're not an idiot... second guessing the the second time around is totally normal. And thankfully, it's just the dress that's under scrutiny! lol Congratulations and best wishes!
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