Okay, so my mom is totally planning on being at my Bachelorette party the night before the wedding. My MOH and girls will be planning it togheter, and I won't really even know half of the people there (they are the wives FI's guys who are from out of town, and probably all the kids!) My house is already going to be crowded, and all the girls who are in the wedding party atleast should be staying the night so we can all get ready there in the morning. I am going on a trip with my mom 2 weeks prior to the wedding, partly as a way of spending time with her, and making her feel better when I told her she was not planning this particular party. My bro is invited to the bachelor party, and other than my house, that would be where she is staying, and she is afraid of having to hang out there alone while the rest of us are partying...I don't know what to do with her. We will have some OTT guests that I knwo she would want to spend more time with than the RH, so maybe I could help set something up with them or something. She is also paying for the RH, so I don't want to just go and drop her for the night...so I have no idea! Any suggestions???
Re: how to say no to OOT Mom for Bachelorette party?
But if you really don't want her, then tell her you want a night with your girlfriends to just let loose before the wedding. Suggest that she spend time with family, all while assuring her you appreciate everything she's done and maybe even make your own "date" just the 2 of you.
Try to see this from her point of view. She is hosting the RH (is that the same as rehearsal dinner?) on the same night, and all RH guests are invited to the bachelorette, except her. Or did I misunderstand something? Also, she is from out of town and needs a place to stay. I don't blame her for not wanting to spend the night alone, after treating everyone to dinner. The only way to do this, without hurting mom's feelings, would be to schedule the RH and the bachelorette on separate nights.